Is it normal to experiment in college?

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I've always thought of myself as a straight man. I was never homophobic, I just didn't understand how a man could have sexual feelings for another man. That changed in college. My best friend came out to me and told me he was gay. I ended up developing feelings towards him, and I've always thought of myself as very open-minded. We were both very horny and maybe even in love. We had one night of fooling around then it got all weird. I've terminated the relationship but we're still friends. Now that my college days are over, I do regret doing what I did. It has made me a bit insecure in my sexuality. I still find women attractive, but I also notice attractive men more but I never think of them sexually. I can't imagine myself in a relationship with a man. Is this whole experience normal?

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  • Jen118584
    13 years ago | pl

    I think you are just very open-minded and this is a lot more normal than you think. It's nothing to be ashamed of and it could very well have been an isolated incident. Just accept it as a learning experience and go from here. No harm done.

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    • dodo999
      13 years ago | pl

      Thanks for the reassurance. There's nothing wrong with homosexuality in my opinion. It's just not for me. I'm a trial and error type of guy. I'll give anything a try.

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      • Zeitmeister
        13 years ago | pl

        I'm a "stright" guy by terms of I only see myself in a relationship with a chick, but I'm also in college and experimenting and i actually have a "friend with benefits". I too though feel like I'm going into the same direction with emotions though and I'm worried too, but I'm really open minded and figure it doesn't really matter. No regrets man, life is too short.

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  • Outsider21
    9 years ago | pl

    I guess it's "normal" in a way, but I don't think it's too common. Girls will often "experiment" in that way but not guys. If they do it's usually because of a lot of question over sexuality.

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  • Anon146
    13 years ago | pl

    Well, I'm bi but I couldn't see myself starting an actual /relationship/ with a girl... I just find them attractive. This could be the inverted form of your situation...
    But then again, you don't have to be attracted to the gender to enjoy it. Experimenting in that way leads to some weird stuff.

    But it's perfectly normal. Even if most guys don't have the balls to experiment, there's nothing wrong with it.

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