All this is about is him seeing his kids and being in contact with his kids, if you knew this from the start, and knew he wanted to stay in his marriage because he was afraid of losing his kids why did you get with him? 8 years is a long time, maybe he should commit but he probably has 2 adorable children that he is AFRAID of losing! Being afraid that he won't commit is serious I understand but losing your own kids is not something any willing and decent parent will do, and he's showing that through you on this post! He sounds like a great guy, wouldn't you want a husband that would see your kids even if you weren't together? Anyone other woman would find him a blessing knowing when they conceive with him he will care for the child with all his heart!
Have you ever thought about whether his wife has said this to him 'if you divorce me you won't see the kids?'! This would be very wrong of her but it happens, people become stubborn and use their childen as weapons!
If I were you I would ask him to discuss divorce with his previous wife, discussing timtables for him to see the kids (so they both have a fair amount of time with their children) whether she be there or not, and later moan about him not committing after the divorce! You said he was open with you so you knew from day one what you were getting yourself into, I just hope it all works/worked out for everyone!
is it normal to expect your partner for 8 yrs to get commited to you
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All this is about is him seeing his kids and being in contact with his kids, if you knew this from the start, and knew he wanted to stay in his marriage because he was afraid of losing his kids why did you get with him? 8 years is a long time, maybe he should commit but he probably has 2 adorable children that he is AFRAID of losing! Being afraid that he won't commit is serious I understand but losing your own kids is not something any willing and decent parent will do, and he's showing that through you on this post! He sounds like a great guy, wouldn't you want a husband that would see your kids even if you weren't together? Anyone other woman would find him a blessing knowing when they conceive with him he will care for the child with all his heart!
Have you ever thought about whether his wife has said this to him 'if you divorce me you won't see the kids?'! This would be very wrong of her but it happens, people become stubborn and use their childen as weapons!
If I were you I would ask him to discuss divorce with his previous wife, discussing timtables for him to see the kids (so they both have a fair amount of time with their children) whether she be there or not, and later moan about him not committing after the divorce! You said he was open with you so you knew from day one what you were getting yourself into, I just hope it all works/worked out for everyone!