Yes you know my personality very well! Just based off iin, man your good! I am very introverted, I literally have like 6 guy friends, all from the gym. We hang out and talk about lifting and shit but none of them TRULY know me if you catch my drift. Their very surface level friends.
This year at college(2.5 weeks in this far) I changed my approach to women to be more towards seeking monogamy. The main difference is last time I focused on finding the right parties to go to with enough horny girls to get one into me and have a one night stand and hopefully a continuous FWB typa deal. But I wanna try monogamy this year because I really want kinky sex and I think having a single partner caters better to that. You don't tie up and blindfold a girl the first time you bang her, she needs to trust you more first. However thus far I haven't done well in terms of escalating with women, I haven't even got one on a second date yet. I'll keep trying though although its frustrating because I know I'm very attractive and masculine but I can't get the personal side of connecting with her down. If you wanna drop some advice for me on that I would appreciate it.
Congrats on finding a partner! Please do discuss this kinky shit with her and get back to me. That would help so much!!!
Some good questions/discussion topics could be :
-What are her kinks?
-What are more common kinks for women to have?
-How kinky are guys compared to girls?
-How quick should a guy introduce kinky ideas into a relationship and how should he go about it?
-What does she think about the best ways for kinksters to meet other ones?
I will bring these things up, good for conversation and education. I have some ideas to the answers but she would likely be more qualified to answer.
We have not got real far yet, we dated on and off years ago but recently reconnected.
Now, I would love nothing more than to give advice about how to connect, however, there seems to be no rhyme nor reason as to who ends up with who. I certainly never could figure out why we see younger pretty, high quality women dating fucking sleazoid pricks. You do not typically see quality men dating trailer trash looking women.
From my experience though, if a woman is interested in dating someone, she will not keep it a secret from the one she desires.
Here is the good part - if she is into you, there is a much better chance she will be willing to cater to your specific needs.
Whatever your needs and turn-ons, just don't act shameful or embarrassed about it. Treat it like it's normal and it is more likely (but not guaranteed) that she will not mind helping.
That last bit is good advice. Women are complicated though so I know this is hardly an exact science. I just struggle to get girls really into me. They think I'm nice because I'm good at small talk and I am attractive and masculine at least a appearance wise, so what am I missing? I think maybe I'm bad at what they call escalating.
Do not be afraid of hitting on the older women too. Wow though, at your age even 25 is older.
Once when I was 20, I was at a club (happy hour after they quit serving liquor) and saw some 37 year old woman sitting there alone in a dress and black pantyhose. I started talking, asked if she was alone and she said yes cause her boyfriend was out of town.
I said, "I am just surprised you are here alone, you are so pretty..." and said God knows what else. I started running on her legs, kissing her nylon covered feet, and we went to her place.
I may not say that is the best approach but here is the point - Get out there, go to work, and you WILL find "romance" so to speak.
This woman wasn't exactly hot by any stretch but she was wearing pantyhose. Oh what a dish, I CAN'T RESIST!
You probably think I am BS'ing about the 37 year old when I was 20. No. I once had a body like yours. I used to be very masculine. DOOO you think an older lady could resist that?
All my life my G/F's and even my wife have been at least a bit older than me. At the same club, after that romance ended (her B/F was coming back), I was still 20 sand met this 25 year old woman whom I was married to for 14 years.
Maybe try night clubs, especially after you hit 21. Might I ask about how soon you will be 21? If not I understand, privacy and all.
I think before is all said and done, you will do better than I ever have.
21 in a hair under six months. Not a huge fan of clubs so maybe If I can succeed without using them I will. Older women I have little experience with as their not usually in the places I look. Older women in a college setting means they have cars and live if campus when you don't. And they can't eat at the cafateria you eat at unless they pay 14 bucks. Just not practical.
I'll get back to you for real in a sec, Imma go approach a girl!
Edit : she was 26 fucking years old and clearly thought that was a problem. Not very talkative and her cleavage was distracting. Damn those tits were good!
Hopefully by Sunday I will have some solid answers. Later this afternoon we are going to hang out should everything go well.
One thing - yeah, a lot of women in their mid 20's think they are so old, wise, and mature. SHIIIT, They are still silly-ass little hoes really. Not all of them are going to see age 20 as a problem though. Fuck that silly bitch.
AND - so you have no probs approaching women. When one says "no", move on to the next one. Eventually you will get a "yes".
As far as clubs, yeah they are loud, sometimes a little cliquish and annoying BUT that doesn't concern you because - You are there on BUSINESS. You go alone, you don't drink (No dui's and to keep a level head) and you go to work flirting. You will get some rejections but you keep working.
Why go alone? THAT way if you are getting ready to score, you don't have competition from your friends AND don't have to take them home. You will be READY to go to someone's place or bring them to yours.
maybe you feel it is a challenge and frustrating. The times you DO successfully form a relationship or have a kink partner or even a vanilla "score", none of the rejections will mean jack shit. That confidence you take to the gym, take it to the dating scene. You WILL succeed.
Thanks man lol there is no way to Express how glad I am for your help!
Here's the deal. Right now my go to is to approach girls at the dining center and ask to sit with them. There's is a decent amount of attractive women sitting alone each day and usually that's what I do. This past week I approached 4 different girls. Every single one let me sit down but most if them mad either clear they weren't interested. One girl who I got along well with subtly said she had a bf. One girl was cute and nice but left abruptly because her roommate needed something. Looking back I should have asked for her number or something. So if you have some advice specific to this approach style that would be nice.
For clubs that would be the plan. No drinks and going alone. I don't wanna drink anyway it would fuck my diet and training up. Confidence is paramount! I love the analogy with the gym and it's what I'm trying to use to motivate myself. I need to just do what I can and love with the outcome. So if I try as hard as possible but still don't get all the sets, that's fine. Just like if I try as hard as I can and do everything right I'll still get dumped sometimes and that's fine.
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Yes you know my personality very well! Just based off iin, man your good! I am very introverted, I literally have like 6 guy friends, all from the gym. We hang out and talk about lifting and shit but none of them TRULY know me if you catch my drift. Their very surface level friends.
This year at college(2.5 weeks in this far) I changed my approach to women to be more towards seeking monogamy. The main difference is last time I focused on finding the right parties to go to with enough horny girls to get one into me and have a one night stand and hopefully a continuous FWB typa deal. But I wanna try monogamy this year because I really want kinky sex and I think having a single partner caters better to that. You don't tie up and blindfold a girl the first time you bang her, she needs to trust you more first. However thus far I haven't done well in terms of escalating with women, I haven't even got one on a second date yet. I'll keep trying though although its frustrating because I know I'm very attractive and masculine but I can't get the personal side of connecting with her down. If you wanna drop some advice for me on that I would appreciate it.
Congrats on finding a partner! Please do discuss this kinky shit with her and get back to me. That would help so much!!!
Some good questions/discussion topics could be :
-What are her kinks?
-What are more common kinks for women to have?
-How kinky are guys compared to girls?
-How quick should a guy introduce kinky ideas into a relationship and how should he go about it?
-What does she think about the best ways for kinksters to meet other ones?
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I will bring these things up, good for conversation and education. I have some ideas to the answers but she would likely be more qualified to answer.
We have not got real far yet, we dated on and off years ago but recently reconnected.
Now, I would love nothing more than to give advice about how to connect, however, there seems to be no rhyme nor reason as to who ends up with who. I certainly never could figure out why we see younger pretty, high quality women dating fucking sleazoid pricks. You do not typically see quality men dating trailer trash looking women.
From my experience though, if a woman is interested in dating someone, she will not keep it a secret from the one she desires.
Here is the good part - if she is into you, there is a much better chance she will be willing to cater to your specific needs.
Whatever your needs and turn-ons, just don't act shameful or embarrassed about it. Treat it like it's normal and it is more likely (but not guaranteed) that she will not mind helping.
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That last bit is good advice. Women are complicated though so I know this is hardly an exact science. I just struggle to get girls really into me. They think I'm nice because I'm good at small talk and I am attractive and masculine at least a appearance wise, so what am I missing? I think maybe I'm bad at what they call escalating.
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Do not be afraid of hitting on the older women too. Wow though, at your age even 25 is older.
Once when I was 20, I was at a club (happy hour after they quit serving liquor) and saw some 37 year old woman sitting there alone in a dress and black pantyhose. I started talking, asked if she was alone and she said yes cause her boyfriend was out of town.
I said, "I am just surprised you are here alone, you are so pretty..." and said God knows what else. I started running on her legs, kissing her nylon covered feet, and we went to her place.
I may not say that is the best approach but here is the point - Get out there, go to work, and you WILL find "romance" so to speak.
This woman wasn't exactly hot by any stretch but she was wearing pantyhose. Oh what a dish, I CAN'T RESIST!
You probably think I am BS'ing about the 37 year old when I was 20. No. I once had a body like yours. I used to be very masculine. DOOO you think an older lady could resist that?
All my life my G/F's and even my wife have been at least a bit older than me. At the same club, after that romance ended (her B/F was coming back), I was still 20 sand met this 25 year old woman whom I was married to for 14 years.
Maybe try night clubs, especially after you hit 21. Might I ask about how soon you will be 21? If not I understand, privacy and all.
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21 in a hair under six months. Not a huge fan of clubs so maybe If I can succeed without using them I will. Older women I have little experience with as their not usually in the places I look. Older women in a college setting means they have cars and live if campus when you don't. And they can't eat at the cafateria you eat at unless they pay 14 bucks. Just not practical.
I'll get back to you for real in a sec, Imma go approach a girl!
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Hopefully by Sunday I will have some solid answers. Later this afternoon we are going to hang out should everything go well.
One thing - yeah, a lot of women in their mid 20's think they are so old, wise, and mature. SHIIIT, They are still silly-ass little hoes really. Not all of them are going to see age 20 as a problem though. Fuck that silly bitch.
AND - so you have no probs approaching women. When one says "no", move on to the next one. Eventually you will get a "yes".
As far as clubs, yeah they are loud, sometimes a little cliquish and annoying BUT that doesn't concern you because - You are there on BUSINESS. You go alone, you don't drink (No dui's and to keep a level head) and you go to work flirting. You will get some rejections but you keep working.
Why go alone? THAT way if you are getting ready to score, you don't have competition from your friends AND don't have to take them home. You will be READY to go to someone's place or bring them to yours.
maybe you feel it is a challenge and frustrating. The times you DO successfully form a relationship or have a kink partner or even a vanilla "score", none of the rejections will mean jack shit. That confidence you take to the gym, take it to the dating scene. You WILL succeed.
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Thanks man lol there is no way to Express how glad I am for your help!
Here's the deal. Right now my go to is to approach girls at the dining center and ask to sit with them. There's is a decent amount of attractive women sitting alone each day and usually that's what I do. This past week I approached 4 different girls. Every single one let me sit down but most if them mad either clear they weren't interested. One girl who I got along well with subtly said she had a bf. One girl was cute and nice but left abruptly because her roommate needed something. Looking back I should have asked for her number or something. So if you have some advice specific to this approach style that would be nice.
For clubs that would be the plan. No drinks and going alone. I don't wanna drink anyway it would fuck my diet and training up. Confidence is paramount! I love the analogy with the gym and it's what I'm trying to use to motivate myself. I need to just do what I can and love with the outcome. So if I try as hard as possible but still don't get all the sets, that's fine. Just like if I try as hard as I can and do everything right I'll still get dumped sometimes and that's fine.