Is it normal to enjoy being single with no kids

I'm 35 and I have no wife or kids and I really enjoyed my life. All the money I make goes straight to me I pay my bills and student loans and I feel bad for enjoying buying useless junk I don't need. I feel that I should be trying to get married and Have some kids but my siblings don't seen happy and they all have Xs and drama with adult and baby kids. I feel bad like I should be worried about my biological clock even though I'm a man but I'm no looker and age won't be on my side the longer I wait. But I'm enjoying my freedom too much. And I feel kinda guilty.

Is It Normal?
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  • Same here, only female. Don't feel guilty, family life is not a synonym for happiness imo. Age is on no one's side when they age, don't you agree?
    I do have to think about (not) wanting kids, but I refuse to start a family because I have little time left without considering consequences.
    Don't look at what others do, just do you!

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  • People who get married and have kids are forced to act happy and fufilled because if they dont people will view them as baby-hating bad parents who are assholes. That and having no hobbies are the only reasons to have babies

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  • People act like you have to get married or settle down with kids but it doesn't matter if your happy, there no law so just continue living life as is and go with the flow.

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  • if ur happy thats all that matters.

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  • Guilty? There are too many humans on Earth. Every person who does not reproduce is doing us all a favor. And if you are happy, that is even better!

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  • You're not gonna be happy forever I assume.

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  • Some married people are happy, some are not. Some single people are happy, some are not. You should not feel guilty for not having a "family" and choosing what is right for you. It would be far worse and more harmful in the long run if you were to pretend to be 'in love' with someone and procreate just to please your family.

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  • Most married people are not as happy as they'd have you believe when you are around them. Having money to do whatever you want, whenever you want to do it is definitely awesome.

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  • If you're happy without marriage and kids, then keep enjoying it. Most people I know that started families are miserable. They've told me that all their money goes to raising kids or dealing with their spouse. Some of them are resentful even wishing they could go back in time and erase their actions so that they'd still have money and a place to live.

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  • I'm right around that same age and I feel exactly the same. Your siblings probably aren't that happy and probably put on a big dog and pony show to make it look like they're happy, I know most of the guys around my age do the same thing but secretly can't wait for any excuse to get out of the house including working a second job (LOL).

    I wouldn't guilt trip yourself too much, marriage isn't for everyone, even though society still tries to trick people into thinking getting married is something you should do and/or you will be happy if you do it. Read some of the true life stories of guys who have believed in the dream of "happily married" and rushed into it and than had to pay dearly for that mistake. Even if you're somewhat lonely or feel like something is "missing" in your life, be careful regarding how you proceed. It's one thing to be a bit lonely, it's far worse to be broke, lonely, and bitter because you went through a shitty divorce.

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