Is it normal to do well with the intention of proving people wrong?

I recently realized that when I accomplish a goal that I've put in a lot of effort to achieve, I don't feel happiness with myself for achieving that goal. Instead, I only dwell on how I proved people wrong who told me I wasn't capable of accomplishing the goal. When I am successful, I make plans to confront the person, lash out at them, and tell them how they had an inaccurate perception of me. Sometimes, I will get so angry that I will make light of that person's deficits. It seems I work hard as a form of revenge, or something like that.

Is It Normal?
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  • You can't accomplish anything worldwide. You can't become president. You can't bring world peace.

    ...Now that I have made you want to accomplish those, when you do it as a form of revenge and accomplish those things, please mention I inspired you to do them....

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  • Please feel challenged to finish Adolf Hitler's work!!!

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  • Pretty stupid....if someone else has to give you the idea, and you're only doing it to be defiant, then you don't really have an identity of your own. Are you 3? What if it's all just reverse psychology anyway?

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  • Dats da gr8test motivation bt dont letit get 2 ya head.

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  • Pure narc.

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  • My motivation isn't too much different.
    My family is filled with druggies and people that just barely make it. Thieves, tramps, people that are seriously fucked up.

    I get some sort of satisfaction knowing that I am probably the least fucked up person in my family and the more I accomplish, the more I feel distanced from their... trashiness. If that makes sense.

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  • I understand... sometimes that can be the greatest motivation to improve yourself for the things you are criticized for, but really only if you agree. About lashing out and rubbing it in, that's a bit extreme, I think if you're really successful you wont need to do that for them to realise they were wrong about you

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