This is dysfunctional and won't end well for either of you. There is so much wrong.. the age gap, the parental role.. I'm not trying to blame you. If he isn't stopping you from doing that stuff it's really messed up. I want you to not do anything that will hurt you. You should probably tell someone.
It's not normal for him in that position to encourage or engage sexual behavior in any way. The reason I think it will hurt you is because people who have things like this happen generally experience trauma due to it. I don't know your exact situation but it sounds bad.
If this started when OP was a kid, I would agree with you, but this starting when they're an adult with someone who may have a history but wasn't a primary parental figure for most of their life. Trauma isn't a black and white issue, it's very much about context. Yes, OP is in a position to potentially experience some hurt feelings and personal upheaval, but I wouldn't say it's necessarily a harmful situation.
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This is dysfunctional and won't end well for either of you. There is so much wrong.. the age gap, the parental role.. I'm not trying to blame you. If he isn't stopping you from doing that stuff it's really messed up. I want you to not do anything that will hurt you. You should probably tell someone.
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what do you mean stopping me? and why do you think it'll hurt me? im legit curious?
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It's not normal for him in that position to encourage or engage sexual behavior in any way. The reason I think it will hurt you is because people who have things like this happen generally experience trauma due to it. I don't know your exact situation but it sounds bad.
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If this started when OP was a kid, I would agree with you, but this starting when they're an adult with someone who may have a history but wasn't a primary parental figure for most of their life. Trauma isn't a black and white issue, it's very much about context. Yes, OP is in a position to potentially experience some hurt feelings and personal upheaval, but I wouldn't say it's necessarily a harmful situation.