So, I have kinda been in a similar situation. Sadly, I was really inexperienced and didn't realize that I couldn't change the girl I was in a relationship with. I tried and tried to tell her in a nice way like "hey I really just care about you blah blah blah" and try to support her in "quitting"... but basically all that happened is that she still did it, but just lied about not doing it to please me, and then that made me upset and then I basically got to the point of being like... "Weed or me? pick one". And that ruined that relationship. What I realized is that you can't make anyone change... and they won't change just for you. If she decides one day that SHE wants to stop, then she might be able to, but that's it.
I would say that if she smokes ALOT... like every day and she uses it as a way to deal with problems in her life, then long term that may not be a good fit and that could cause a lot of problems... However, if she just smokes every now and again, and you really like her otherwise, then I think the best you could do is try to accept her weed smoking and tell her that it would be helpful if she hid it from your friends and family for a while; And maybe one day, like you said, she might decide to kinda stop smoking it on her own.
It also depends on how much you don't like it. For me, I had a pretty big problem with it, so I probably shouldn't date smokes weed... but if you don't really have as much of an issue with it, it can work and I wouldn't let it ruin something good for you... but you probably have to just kinda accept it. Best of luck! And yeah it's normal haha.
Is it normal to dislike my girlfriend smoking weed?
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So, I have kinda been in a similar situation. Sadly, I was really inexperienced and didn't realize that I couldn't change the girl I was in a relationship with. I tried and tried to tell her in a nice way like "hey I really just care about you blah blah blah" and try to support her in "quitting"... but basically all that happened is that she still did it, but just lied about not doing it to please me, and then that made me upset and then I basically got to the point of being like... "Weed or me? pick one". And that ruined that relationship. What I realized is that you can't make anyone change... and they won't change just for you. If she decides one day that SHE wants to stop, then she might be able to, but that's it.
I would say that if she smokes ALOT... like every day and she uses it as a way to deal with problems in her life, then long term that may not be a good fit and that could cause a lot of problems... However, if she just smokes every now and again, and you really like her otherwise, then I think the best you could do is try to accept her weed smoking and tell her that it would be helpful if she hid it from your friends and family for a while; And maybe one day, like you said, she might decide to kinda stop smoking it on her own.
It also depends on how much you don't like it. For me, I had a pretty big problem with it, so I probably shouldn't date smokes weed... but if you don't really have as much of an issue with it, it can work and I wouldn't let it ruin something good for you... but you probably have to just kinda accept it. Best of luck! And yeah it's normal haha.