Is it normal to dislike having bf's after a while

when i get a boyfriend im happy for some months, then i get mad at myself for getting one, cause i always get tired of them, and want to break up. but i can't break up, cause i dont have the heart to do so. i don't want to see him and when we are not able to see each other he starts sending love messages and i think its gross... i just see his bad sides, and am not interested in him at all... and every time i fall in love and gets bf's i tell my self not to, cause i know ill get tired of him... but its love first, yknow. What to do? normL?

Is It Normal?
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  • just date them. Be in open relationships.

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  • I dont want a boyfriend either. Just the thought of me having one feels weird and I've never been broken up with before or hurt by someone and I'm pretty sure I have no feelings for another female (No offense). So I honestly dont know whats wrong with me.

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  • Sounds your looking for a "cocaine-type relationship". Not that your using cocaine, but the high of the relationship and all the great sex at first make you ecstatic. Sadly, what goes up, must come down. If I were you, I would find a way to get this resolved before going any further. Better to be closed down for repairs than out of order.

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  • just break up. It sucks but you have to do it. While you're single, figure out why you have these commitment issues.

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  • Commitment issues?
    It must be normal because A LOT of people suffer from it.

    I mean I understand commmiting can be the scariest especially when stung before...

    I have the same issues when I have dated some of my exes.

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  • It really doesn't sound like you a ready for a steady - so just tell this guy that & let him go. Don't jump into another relationship just to get tired and resentful of it because its not what you want and hard to get out of.

    Date guys, have fun and let them know from the onset that you are not interested at this time in major commitments.

    People are allowed to date without playing emotionally wrenching games paralleling marriage/divorce.

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  • I want to break up, but I dont have the heart to do so. He tells me he's everything he lives for...

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  • hmm i definitely say its normal. im sure some people would disagree- but thats my problem as well.
    the best thing you can do, is up front say that you are NOT interested in a relationship. that doesnt mean you cant have all the things a relationship entails, but you tell them right off the bat that you are not looking for labels or for commitment. some men like that some dont.
    i am perpetually single, and i love it- but that doesnt mean i dont meet new men all the time... the main thing is "happiness begins with yourself" meaning if someone is getting to close, distnace yourself, because realistically when the guy comes around that you want to spend time with.. that feeling will go away..and you wont need the heart to tell them to beat it... so enjoy singlehood and date men and find out what you really like and dont like-- but you dont have to commit! men dont..neither do we..

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