Read my other comment. I already said that. I straight up said "I don't like you I am sorry" and listed all the reasons we shouldn't date. It doesn't work.
In your post, you made it seem as though it's a recurring problem... In that case, the common denominator is you. Because most people really do get the 'hint' when a person says to them, "I don't like you."
But, if this is just one person or if you've had a past relationship with them, then it's different. If it's some obsessed stalker, with whom you've never had a relationship with beyond friendship, be aggressively direct when they make unwanted advances on you. You don't have to subject yourself to their crazy shit.
If it's someone you've been in a relationship with, then they deserve more care. Still, do everything you can to make sure there's never any confusion about how you feel. For example, if you tell them the reasons why you think they're a wonderful person and how your past relationship with them was amazing, then follow that with the bad news that you'll never like them; it can be a mixed message. If you haven't sent any mixed messages and you feel the need to have some space/time away from them (which is perfectly okay), tell them that's what you need; don't just simply ignore them and hope they get the message---that's so high school.
Then you need to detach from your friendship a little. Hang out less, blow her off, etc until she gets bored and moves on. Honestly I wouldn't worry about ruining your friendship, she's already doing that.
Is it normal to dislike being chased?
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Read my other comment. I already said that. I straight up said "I don't like you I am sorry" and listed all the reasons we shouldn't date. It doesn't work.
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In your post, you made it seem as though it's a recurring problem... In that case, the common denominator is you. Because most people really do get the 'hint' when a person says to them, "I don't like you."
But, if this is just one person or if you've had a past relationship with them, then it's different. If it's some obsessed stalker, with whom you've never had a relationship with beyond friendship, be aggressively direct when they make unwanted advances on you. You don't have to subject yourself to their crazy shit.
If it's someone you've been in a relationship with, then they deserve more care. Still, do everything you can to make sure there's never any confusion about how you feel. For example, if you tell them the reasons why you think they're a wonderful person and how your past relationship with them was amazing, then follow that with the bad news that you'll never like them; it can be a mixed message. If you haven't sent any mixed messages and you feel the need to have some space/time away from them (which is perfectly okay), tell them that's what you need; don't just simply ignore them and hope they get the message---that's so high school.
Then you need to detach from your friendship a little. Hang out less, blow her off, etc until she gets bored and moves on. Honestly I wouldn't worry about ruining your friendship, she's already doing that.