I think part of my resentment has to do with my lack of a bond with my sister - she's 11 years older, and whenever we speak, she always teases me. That, and I somehow deemed becoming an aunt before middle school "embarrassing" and "trashy". It's also worth mentioning that before my niece was born, I didn't know many of my aunts or uncles. The only one I knew was an aunt in her fifties. Granted, I was my aunt's youngest niece, but that set my expectations of the role.
If this "isn't about me", then how am I supposed to grow from the experience? Arguably, it *isn't at all* about me; it was my sister's decision to have her.
And I'm not miserable, either. Apathetic is a better word.
I am the same amount away from my sister as you are from yours. I became an aunt and I was just starting high school. I thought it was cool that there was a baby in the family that didn't have to be "my" younger sibling and I could still stay "the" baby, lol. Years later, I continue to enjoy my role as the "cool" aunt, and it makes me act more mature and more responsible as well. It's made me a better, more caring person overall as well. I hope you have as much enjoyment as your young relatives look up to you and your bond with them grows. Maybe they can act as a bridge to be closer to your sister and get to know your family better. Or maybe they can have part of your sister in them that you can enjoy because it's in a different person.
Is it normal to dislike being an aunt?
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I think part of my resentment has to do with my lack of a bond with my sister - she's 11 years older, and whenever we speak, she always teases me. That, and I somehow deemed becoming an aunt before middle school "embarrassing" and "trashy". It's also worth mentioning that before my niece was born, I didn't know many of my aunts or uncles. The only one I knew was an aunt in her fifties. Granted, I was my aunt's youngest niece, but that set my expectations of the role.
If this "isn't about me", then how am I supposed to grow from the experience? Arguably, it *isn't at all* about me; it was my sister's decision to have her.
And I'm not miserable, either. Apathetic is a better word.
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I am the same amount away from my sister as you are from yours. I became an aunt and I was just starting high school. I thought it was cool that there was a baby in the family that didn't have to be "my" younger sibling and I could still stay "the" baby, lol. Years later, I continue to enjoy my role as the "cool" aunt, and it makes me act more mature and more responsible as well. It's made me a better, more caring person overall as well. I hope you have as much enjoyment as your young relatives look up to you and your bond with them grows. Maybe they can act as a bridge to be closer to your sister and get to know your family better. Or maybe they can have part of your sister in them that you can enjoy because it's in a different person.