Is it normal to disassociate one's sexuality from reality?

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Put simply, I am not an attractive guy (I know this isn't unusual; bare with me). I spent a few years attempting to date women, without receiving any indication of interest, to the point where I simply gave up. From there, I saw three common paths taken: 1) asexuality (unacceptable, given my sex drive), 2) hiring prostitutes (unacceptable for ethical reasons) and 3) turning into a frothing pit of misogyny that trolls feminist sites for vague purposes (unacceptable for several obvious reasons).

What I chose instead was to separate my sexuality from physically present people so as to no longer have to deal with unreciprocated attraction. My sex drive is intact, it just no longer activates for anything but porn or other sex scenes.

Is this a normal reaction? Remember that this isn't simply a matter of dress or whatever; I have unequivocally proven to be of no interest to women regardless of my actions or appearance.

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  • Tisgranum
    12 years ago | pl

    It might also be you that isn't attracted to the whole of what having sex with a woman includes. Women are sexual beings and it's hard to believe that you can't get laid no matter what.

    Porn gets boring after a while.

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    • schismtracer
      12 years ago | pl

      Of course women are sexual beings, but they also have standards which I'm incapable of meeting. Not everyone is attractive, full stop.

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      • Tisgranum
        12 years ago | pl

        And not every woman will only go for an attractive man. I strongly believe that, if you absolutely wanted to get laid, you would

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