Is it normal to despise talking to my girlfriend over the phone?

I hate talking to my girlfriend over the phone. She doesn't have an annoying voice or anything, I just feel like I want her to stop talking so I can continue on with whatever bullshit I am doing. When she gets the feeling like I am not engaged in the conversation enough or that I don't care she gets annoyed with me which in turn gets me annoyed at her. In person it is fine. Over the phone I just hate it. I can talk to anyone else over the phone fine and not feel that way.

Is It Normal?
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  • Basically, you neither love nor accept her yet.

    I'm not saying you should break up with her, or anything. You simply aren't interesting in her as a person yet, and just see her as the title "girlfriend," but nothing more. Love grows with time, communication, and bonding or falters if there's nothing there to grow off on.

    At the end of the day, your girlfriend should be becoming one of your closest friends, but more. My suggestion, try listening to what she's saying and comment on it in your own natural way (no sugar coating or putting her opinion down), maybe you can help her see a different point of view to her story. Plus, being acknowledged is a nice feeling.

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  • I think it's normal to not like talking on the phone, but to despise talking to your girlfriend, supposedly one of the closest people you have - not normal.

    I will add something to this however, I do hate texting, especially emoji texting. My girlfriend loves this and would send me stupid emojis. When she does, I'd call her, talk with her for a bit and be done with it. I hate sending back emojis, or God forbid that stupid "Wish you a great morning" with a background of coffee, or birds, or smiling squirrels, or whatever garbage...

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  • "I want her to stop talking so I can continue on with whatever bullshit I am doing." sounds like you dont really give a shit about her

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  • It's normal to not liking talking on the phone, but to despise it only when it's one particular person (and your girlfriend at that) is a bit odd.

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  • Seems like you find her tedious. Try to find out and ask yourself why you feel this way towards her...why does her talking annoy you...only you know the answers.

    It's not normal you cringe every time she calls...if you are not happy about something or get bored with her...let her know and she might just try to change the conversation up a bit. Communication is the most important thing in any relationship

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  • Break up.

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  • I hate talking to anyone over the phone. Especially my family and friends, they seem to think I give a shit about their lives.

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  • You two are not compatible.

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  • Talking over the phone is inconvenient

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