This may be an unpopular opinion but I think that sometimes, the person who is best for you isn't necessarily the person you lust for or crave to have romance with. It gets to the point where lust always fades and you are left with reality. You both see each other's faults and flaws and the sex goes stale or eventually subsides.
What you have in the end is someone who knows you for you. They know all your flaws. They put up with you and your shortcomings. They're boring as fuck. You crave something more but at the end of the day, if you ever need to go to the hospital or something happens to you or you need to be looked after, they're the ones who are there for you and stick with you.
Only you know what's best for you but sex and lust never last (with any person - man or woman). My husband and I have been together for almost 6 years. I don't feel like having sex with him (ever) and yet the love and trust is there and when either of us need someone to rely on / lean back on, we've got each other's backs.
I would urge you to strongly reconsider leaving your fiancee in search of lust or romance. Both these things don't last. You will have times when you're bored shitless of your fiancee and times when you just can't stand them anymore. This is when real love happens, not the puppy dog, gone with the wind type romance you see in the movies.
Is it normal to constantly think of other women when I'm engaged?
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This may be an unpopular opinion but I think that sometimes, the person who is best for you isn't necessarily the person you lust for or crave to have romance with. It gets to the point where lust always fades and you are left with reality. You both see each other's faults and flaws and the sex goes stale or eventually subsides.
What you have in the end is someone who knows you for you. They know all your flaws. They put up with you and your shortcomings. They're boring as fuck. You crave something more but at the end of the day, if you ever need to go to the hospital or something happens to you or you need to be looked after, they're the ones who are there for you and stick with you.
Just food for thought.
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This is why I prefer to be single.
I think you're right.. lust probably always fades.
At the same time though, if I'm beginning to resent my fiancée maybe it's not only lust which fades in a relationship?
Hmm. I'm 23, and I feel like my life is already doomed.
We went on a date the other night, and we came back around 10 pm and fell straight to sleep..
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Only you know what's best for you but sex and lust never last (with any person - man or woman). My husband and I have been together for almost 6 years. I don't feel like having sex with him (ever) and yet the love and trust is there and when either of us need someone to rely on / lean back on, we've got each other's backs.
I would urge you to strongly reconsider leaving your fiancee in search of lust or romance. Both these things don't last. You will have times when you're bored shitless of your fiancee and times when you just can't stand them anymore. This is when real love happens, not the puppy dog, gone with the wind type romance you see in the movies.
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Thanks for the advice :)