what I'm realizing is that there is definitely a clique going on at work and it's something I'm not used to. Most of my jobs working in the service industry, I felt on the same page as everyone else, or there was always people I could lean in to or side with, etc. Right now there are times I'm feeling excluded, not part of things, I have to be nosey to find out workplace information (like, why did so and so call off? turns out they have covid! something like that should be told to me, even if in the grapevine vs directly a manager)
There's times when the other girls aren't communicating or respecting me properly. And so that just builds up this sense that they don't like me and I don't like them, which makes me apprehensive to talk. And if it's truly a clique then maybe that's exactly their intent, they don't want to get to know me or have me in their group.
I literally had this happen at a job once years ago, as a barista and it was a small crew. One minute I felt I was part of things, involved, and on the same page, the next minute I felt like I was out of the loop, I wasn't being told things or I had to find things outs, when I confronted people about things they dodged the truth, etc.
This is not fun. It makes me paranoid. It makes me freak out because it's at work and work is money and also a livelihood and a sense of purpose and there is so much anxiety and uncertainty in trying to find a new job and think it's going to happen again, or worse that the problem is actually me somehow.
IIN to constantly feel like your coworkers don’t like you?
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what I'm realizing is that there is definitely a clique going on at work and it's something I'm not used to. Most of my jobs working in the service industry, I felt on the same page as everyone else, or there was always people I could lean in to or side with, etc. Right now there are times I'm feeling excluded, not part of things, I have to be nosey to find out workplace information (like, why did so and so call off? turns out they have covid! something like that should be told to me, even if in the grapevine vs directly a manager)
There's times when the other girls aren't communicating or respecting me properly. And so that just builds up this sense that they don't like me and I don't like them, which makes me apprehensive to talk. And if it's truly a clique then maybe that's exactly their intent, they don't want to get to know me or have me in their group.
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I literally had this happen at a job once years ago, as a barista and it was a small crew. One minute I felt I was part of things, involved, and on the same page, the next minute I felt like I was out of the loop, I wasn't being told things or I had to find things outs, when I confronted people about things they dodged the truth, etc.
This is not fun. It makes me paranoid. It makes me freak out because it's at work and work is money and also a livelihood and a sense of purpose and there is so much anxiety and uncertainty in trying to find a new job and think it's going to happen again, or worse that the problem is actually me somehow.