Mm hm. Once, my dad even told me off for being a rude snob for not talking enough...
Okay, fine. That time, I didn't want to feign interest or talk because my parents had forced me to go to the dinner. He was socialising with people I'm not fond of and other random people to do with his business. It was all fake and horrible. I couldn't stand it. They hadn't even told me that I was going to have to attend this thing. So, I sat at the "young people's" table, listening to someone continually bitch about people I don't know. It's not like I had anything to contribute to that anyway. I said one bland sentence, I think. It wasn't entirely because I really was pissed off and acting like a brat that night, I was surrounded by people I didn't know, so I felt very uncomfortable and put on a cold exterior. Whoops, life story time, sorry. I tend to ramble when I'm tired.
Although it's regarded as the norm for people to be outgoing and sociable and people who are more reserved or shy are seen as having something wrong with them, that is not the case. We're all different.
This reminds me of something my driving instructor was telling me about the other day. She was going on about her son's 21st birthday and how he isn't ultra sociable. She wanted to hire a limousine to take him clubbing with some girls, but he emphatically said NO because that isn't his thing at all. I said "well, that's alright if he prefers not to and he's happier with it that way..." and she quickly replied "no! It's not alright" shaking her head. Poor boy. I almost felt like laughing at how seriously his mum takes this, as though there's a real problem here when there's nothing wrong with him.
"He's nice and friendly with people, but only has a couple of friends and doesn't like to go clubbing with the others!"
Oh dear.
That's exactly how i feel.. most people socialise just for the sake of it, but there's nothing wrong with keeping quiet if i don't have anything to say right? Lol, I've lost count of the number of times people told me that i look like i can't be bothered with the world. Really appreciate the in depth comment, thanks for the reassurance. :)
By the way Flowers, that really sucks that your dad was so harsh on you (no offense to your daddy-O) Being around a bunch of strangers who talk crap is mortifying...I'm surprised you didn't eventually run off screaming ;)
Is it normal to come across as cold and distant?
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Mm hm. Once, my dad even told me off for being a rude snob for not talking enough...
Okay, fine. That time, I didn't want to feign interest or talk because my parents had forced me to go to the dinner. He was socialising with people I'm not fond of and other random people to do with his business. It was all fake and horrible. I couldn't stand it. They hadn't even told me that I was going to have to attend this thing. So, I sat at the "young people's" table, listening to someone continually bitch about people I don't know. It's not like I had anything to contribute to that anyway. I said one bland sentence, I think. It wasn't entirely because I really was pissed off and acting like a brat that night, I was surrounded by people I didn't know, so I felt very uncomfortable and put on a cold exterior. Whoops, life story time, sorry. I tend to ramble when I'm tired.
Although it's regarded as the norm for people to be outgoing and sociable and people who are more reserved or shy are seen as having something wrong with them, that is not the case. We're all different.
This reminds me of something my driving instructor was telling me about the other day. She was going on about her son's 21st birthday and how he isn't ultra sociable. She wanted to hire a limousine to take him clubbing with some girls, but he emphatically said NO because that isn't his thing at all. I said "well, that's alright if he prefers not to and he's happier with it that way..." and she quickly replied "no! It's not alright" shaking her head. Poor boy. I almost felt like laughing at how seriously his mum takes this, as though there's a real problem here when there's nothing wrong with him.
"He's nice and friendly with people, but only has a couple of friends and doesn't like to go clubbing with the others!"
Oh dear.
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That's exactly how i feel.. most people socialise just for the sake of it, but there's nothing wrong with keeping quiet if i don't have anything to say right? Lol, I've lost count of the number of times people told me that i look like i can't be bothered with the world. Really appreciate the in depth comment, thanks for the reassurance. :)
By the way Flowers, that really sucks that your dad was so harsh on you (no offense to your daddy-O) Being around a bunch of strangers who talk crap is mortifying...I'm surprised you didn't eventually run off screaming ;)
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Tell me about it :P!
The workshop idea sounds like a good one. I agree with others that time and experience will generally make things easier to deal with.
Understanding friends will be okay with your shyness.