Is it normal to cheat when your partner hurts your feelings?

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I have been dating my fiancée for three years now and just recently about amonth age he called me fat and unattractive and I'm reay not. But it hurt me so bad that I've been craving the attention and approval of a few of my closest guy friends so I can feel pretty again And loved and stuff. This has led me to cheat on my fiancée with two of my guy friends(sexual intercourse, not cheating as in dating them. Just physical attention) and has led me to get a mini crush on another friend(but he's a virgin so the crush(an actual romantic interest and not just sex) is very innocent. Don't wanna scare the poor boy lol). I feel really bad about it but at the same time I don't because when my fiancée insulted me it hurt so bad that I threatened to break up with him. This situation sucks because I don't want to break up with him over just one thing. I've been trying to work it out but it's hard for me to get over the hurt of the insult.

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  • BfingIToucher
    13 years ago

    There is waaaayyyy more wrong with your relationship than those comments that he made. You are not ready to make a commitment to marry anyone.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    break up with him.

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  • MarijuAtheist
    13 years ago

    Your relationship with your fiancé sounds unhealthy. Something tell me his comment was just the straw that broke the camels back. Why would you want to be with someone who makes you feel the need to go and cheat to boost your self-esteem?

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  • Juanita023
    13 years ago

    There's never a good reason to cheat. Just leave him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Well the insult from the fiance was uncalled for, and you were deeply insulted. But really - do YOU think its normal to go fuck your friends because you are upset and want to feel pretty?

    That is crazy on so many levels. I don't believe it. Nor do I think that you are being honest with yourself.

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  • flowers-madness
    13 years ago

    I've done it several times. The asshole deserves it. So stick it to him.

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  • jessica1617
    13 years ago

    Why want to spend your life with someone who will make you feel unwanted and ugly? I was with a guy who called me horrible names for 2 years but if he really thinks your fat then why would he be with you? Hes insecure cuz he has to say something bad to the one he loves to make himself feel better. He thinks that if he can manipulate u into thinking that then u wouldnt want to be with anyone except him. Hes afraid of loosing a beautiful girl. If it keeps up then leave there are many guys out there that will treat u better

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  • xsavealifex
    13 years ago

    Wow. You do not need to be making a lifetime commitment! I'm married and it is VERY hard work! It's totally worth it in the end, but it's something worth fighting for. You don't need to get married just yet until you're comfortable with yourself.

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  • khamkham
    13 years ago

    If you can't work it out anymore, then find another man. Oh come on, don't limit your world to that man who doesn't even deserve your love.

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  • HugeDong87
    13 years ago

    If you ever feel bad again and want to cheat, let me know i'll sort you out lol :p

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  • Scrat
    13 years ago

    burn In inferno lady burnnnnnn

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  • InfectedSunshine
    13 years ago

    1) it is NEVER okay to cheat on your partner. if your relationship isn't going in the direction that you want it to, end the relationship. don't add more problems to it by cheating.
    2) you should really see a therapist or psychiatrist about your low self-esteem because it is NOT normal to want to have sex with as many guys as possible just because someone called you fat and/or ugly.
    3) you are NOT ready to get married. please, do yourself and your "fiancée" a favor and call the whole thing off. you need time to mature and get over some personal issues before you can go and permanently attach yourself to somebody...

    hope everything works out in the end. have a nice life.

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  • Ebola69
    9 years ago

    So on top of being fat and ugly, you also have a horrible personality and mental problems. Your boyfriend's a lucky guy.

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  • dman111
    9 years ago

    I say your a match made in heaven you both thing it is ok to hurt people so it is better you guys stay together and hurt each other then breaking up and hurting people who do not deserve to be hurt

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  • AkatsukinoOokami
    9 years ago

    Dick move...........

    I sounds like you two are way to immature for a actual relationship.........

    you should never cheat on your partner, just break it off.

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  • Mr-Myrtos
    10 years ago

    Typically feminine and totally wrong.
    There are always ways to resolve such situations.
    Talking is important. After having exhausted the words separation seems inevitable.
    This is called adult behavior.
    Be wise.

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  • combatgal856
    13 years ago

    Are you sure the insult is the only thinkg you are worried about.

    My bf calls me fat (because I love food) when I'm quiet slim but we just laugh of it and I think nothing of it, however you appear to have taken it to heart, you need to think why?. Was he being serious, or did you make it serious.

    If he was serious then you should talk about it with him, and if he wants to marry you then I doubt he meant it.

    If you took it seriously when it was a joke then perhaps you are subconsciously looking for an excuse to get away from the commitment of this relationship, you may feel trapped and are seeking for maybe a better option or just a way to free yourself.

    Or maybe you have insecurities and need more time getting to know yourself before someone else can get that close to you.

    Good luck and I hope you sort it out.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    your not ready to get married,call it off and do some tweeks in your relationshop befor you make a huge comitment ~understander

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  • uknowitaintmyfault
    13 years ago

    yeah, right. don't cheat, just leave him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    ffs yeah ok he hurts ur feelings so u betray him? yeah good one now maybe he should move from hurting ur feelings to hurting your face god dont fucking complain when he finds out and gets rid of ur slaggy ass

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    ya and dont cheat... NEVER CHEAT.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Well I think you're gorgeous. Did I mention you're lookin' thin, baby??

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Totally normal...for a skanky whore.

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