Is it normal to break up with someone you are in love with?

I have done this before, unsure why but I did opposite of what I actually wanted. I broke up with someone I felt for, yet stayed with someone I was miserable with..

Life is short. You "fall in love" with someone once, hopefully have some kids with them, get old and die.

yeah it's self sabotage, you maybe think you don't deserve to be happy and you may or may not have some abandonment issues.

Hey, I don't know if you still follow this post but anxiety is a terrible beast to have to deal with. It does put strain on relationships, friendships, school and work and every aspect of life.

There's no shame in getting professional help, it's possible but difficult to overcome on your own and of course every person is different and what works for some might not necessarily work for others.

I don't want to preach and it's quite possible that your treatment would be different, but for me, I worked through it with therapy and learning to identify triggers for anxiety and panic attacks and how to bring myself out of that state of mind. Knowing it's an automatic reaction/physiological response to stimuli doesn't make the panic go away, but that knowledge can be a shield to help you get through it and tell yourself it's going to be okay.

If he's supportive of you and cares about you, he may be willing to work with you through it. But I do strongly reccomend if you are able to seeing a therapist, they'll be able to help you come up with a plan for recovery.

I would advise against medication for the anxiety. It helps, but benzos are so addictive and leave some people with long lasting side effects. It's not to say they can't help or may not be the solution for you, but there are a lot of horror stories out there and it's best to be informed before you would go down that road.

I did that once broke up with someone I loved...but I also felt stifled, but we ended up being very close until he died

It's a painful situation to be in but unfortunately common. Sometimes it's self-sabotage, but there are also instances where you can genuinely love someone but the relationship has so many problems that walking away is the right thing to do. Only you know what's best for yourself.

I'm not really sure what you are asking. Even though it isn't usually normal to break up with someone you love it isn't too rare. I did. I broke up with my first REAL boyfriend, even though I loved him and we wanted to get married. Why? Because he raped me, twice.