It is normal to date different people. Each one will have their positives and negatives for you. You had a lot of time to spend with this person, and it was a blessing to you both. But there were areas that were not working for you, so it ran its course and now it's time to meet other people. If you know what you want in life and realize you can't change a person to make him what you need, you will make mature decisions. Nobody is perfect, including you. Remember that it is more of a female thing to improve ourselves and change ourselves. I have known guys who have done it, but only because THEY wanted to change for their own reasons. If you learn about personalities, it will help you pick the right partner. I like the book, "The Color Code" by Hartman.
I see my neighbors, who are living together, going through this. She is mature and ambitious, and her boyfriend is immature. She is realizing there is a problem, but I can't just come out and tell her to run from this guy because he is never going to stop being selfish like he is. He is lazy with chores and spends all his money on cars and motorcycles. He has other bad habits. She is beautiful and almost all guys that meet her are attracted to her, so it is tempting to tell her to follow her instincts, but if I do she may end up marrying the guy and I look like a jerk, even though after 10 years and 2 kids, she ends up leaving him anyway.
At 19 you are just beginning the journey. Try to appreciate it, even though the steps to maturity and a good life are sometimes painful.
IIN to break up even though you're in love with your boyfriend?
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It is normal to date different people. Each one will have their positives and negatives for you. You had a lot of time to spend with this person, and it was a blessing to you both. But there were areas that were not working for you, so it ran its course and now it's time to meet other people. If you know what you want in life and realize you can't change a person to make him what you need, you will make mature decisions. Nobody is perfect, including you. Remember that it is more of a female thing to improve ourselves and change ourselves. I have known guys who have done it, but only because THEY wanted to change for their own reasons. If you learn about personalities, it will help you pick the right partner. I like the book, "The Color Code" by Hartman.
I see my neighbors, who are living together, going through this. She is mature and ambitious, and her boyfriend is immature. She is realizing there is a problem, but I can't just come out and tell her to run from this guy because he is never going to stop being selfish like he is. He is lazy with chores and spends all his money on cars and motorcycles. He has other bad habits. She is beautiful and almost all guys that meet her are attracted to her, so it is tempting to tell her to follow her instincts, but if I do she may end up marrying the guy and I look like a jerk, even though after 10 years and 2 kids, she ends up leaving him anyway.
At 19 you are just beginning the journey. Try to appreciate it, even though the steps to maturity and a good life are sometimes painful.