Is it normal to blow up over insignificant thing & not learn from them

43% Normal
5 Comments

I get really pissed over everything (because I take them soo personally & somehow manage to analyze to the point that it affects me in some sort of way). It's really hurting my relationship because a.) trust is damn hard & b.) I keep making a scene over everything & he's getting tired of it. I am too! lol. It's not like I enjoy getting pissed or mad over everything but it just happens. Has this ever happened to you? If so, how do you cope with it? My boyfriend says I need to think before I react. I get so mad that I want to cut myself (& I do). I know I need help but I believe I can do it on my own because I've done it before. I just I don't know, every time I do good & try hard I end up messing up. It sucks :( I love my boyfriend & he loves me soo much too (he deals with me all the time!) but I don't want to lose something so precious. I just want to stop over thinking things & taking them so personally. & also I need to trust! :(

Is It Normal?
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 5 ) Sort: best | oldest
  • Oli
    12 years ago | pl

    Get out of the relationship.
    Get help.
    Once sane again, go back in.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    2
    2
  • anhonehelp57
    11 years ago | pl

    I think I saw a show with Dr Oz. Research has proven that this action is normal and millions are trying to find help.

    The doctor called it premenopausal disorder that leads to the same hormone deficit in the brain. Presently, the research suggests birth control pills (very bad choice for my age group) and/or antidepressants (I am very afraid to "get hooked on those"). I am trying the strongest over the counter Midol at this time and will let you know my discovery. (Vodka is still on my list to learn drinking. haha). I have seen a counsellor/doctor that proved to me that EIGHT HOURS OF UNDISTURBED SLEEP can make all the difference in a person's mental state of mind. Again, prescription drug, Ambien, helps me but when I am out ... Panic stress!!!

    GOD bless you every minute of your day, love you, Jane

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • nerd1234
    12 years ago | pl

    Okay, well first of all.. stop cutting yourself. No matter what the issue is, the matter will not get better by causing harm to your body. I get upset too over things that may not be that important later on. When you feel your blood boiling over something stupid.. take a deep breath and think to yourself "Is this something I really need to get upset about?" If you're still upset, talk calmly about it to your boyfriend (or whoever else you're upset with) about how you feel. After, you should realize that the whole thing wasn't a big deal, you settled it out, and you are happy that you didn't blow up. I hope this helped, but please STOP cutting yourself. :)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago | pl

    Sounds like it could be a mood disorder, but I'm not a psychologist. I have something like that, though I don't have a clear diagnoses of what it is yet.

    But I'd say talk to a therapist and see if theyll check you out and talk to you, maybe give you some methods to not freak out. Counting, deep breaths, walking away for a few minutes and do something you find cathartic.

    And if you haven't started cutting, please don't. It's an addiction as bad as the hardcore drugs out there. :/

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0
  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago | pl

    .... ^^^^

    anyway.... I get what ur sayin'. I'm like the male verison of what u do. my dad and everyone on that side of the family does it too. Luckily i have them doing it to act as a mirror to me. And now Im able to idenify when I'm doing it and can then try to shake myself out of it.

    so if u do have anyone like that to be a mirror for u, then idk.... i could be ur friend and then get all bitchy and pissy with u i guess. xD haha

    Its hard be more u practice that better u get at controlling ur crazy. I hard to learn the hard way, but i hope u wont have to.

    Good luck

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    Report
    0
    0