Is it normal to blame your sister for your lack of self-esteem

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Since I was six maybe seven my sister, whose 9 years older than me, would always attack me about weight. She would always say mean things to me when I was eating and rolled her eyes at me with disgust. I would always cry because of her actions. Through the years it got worse like if I brought fast food or subway I would have to eat it secretly so she wouldn't verbally abuse me. I was so scared of what she would say to me. Couple years after that it stopped and we stopped talking, we just live as strangers in the same house. But what I find weird is that I can be confident with friends, but if my sister is there I still feel like the worthless piece of shit. I don't know if it's normal but I really do blame my sister for my lack of self-confidence, and if she did all that so she can help well it didn't work it only made us drift apart. Thanks.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Move out of this house asap and start anew. We are often given siblings that we would not otherwise choose.

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  • tori
    12 years ago | pl

    I grew up without brothers or sisters. But I know about people being life and self esteem suckers. People who know how to suck happiness out of the air. A certain someone close to me will say something really sarcastic and I'm dumbfounded. I don't know what to say because I wasn't expecting it. Then I spend days trying to get out of my funk. If I could live my life over I would and change everything. I'm still a work in progress. I hope to someday be able to kick this persons butt. But for now, I walk away while they are talking. Makes them mad but, it's all on them. You are only in control of yourself. Other people's drama is not yours. I don't know if I made any sense here. (as I have been told, I hardly do) but I tried. Good luck. And walk away from the happiness suckers.

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  • MegaDerp
    12 years ago | pl

    She's a bitch u should get over it and if she says anything about ur weight again tell her to go fuk herself

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  • Chillpill
    12 years ago | pl

    I know from experience that some older siblings can really undermine your confidence. I agree that your sister probably has her own issues and think that she is using you to detract from them. My guess is that she simply identified food/eating as your weak spot, but it's not really about that at all. It's more likely sibling rivalry. With such a big age gap, it's a shame that she is not more mature and supportive. What is your parents role in this?

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  • eatthemapples
    12 years ago | pl

    Don't ever listen to wat she says or in fact wat anyone says. Your sister sounds like a bitch! My sister is exactly like how you described your sister, always shooting my self esteem to floor. I've learned over the years to completely ignore her hurtful words.

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  • Cobrakitnu
    12 years ago | pl

    I feel like you left something out in this story, honestly. Being an older sibling, I'd only attack my younger sibling if he attacked me first (I know, immature). Do you, by any chance, annoy the shit out of her?

    Just a thought.

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    • sg55667788
      12 years ago | pl

      We were very close until she moved to private school, it went down hill from there. I honestly I don't know what I did but all I know is that her tormenting began when she was a freshman. Yes, I was a chubby kid, but what right does that give someone to verbally abuse them especially when it's you're sister.

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      • Cobrakitnu
        12 years ago | pl

        Then just like everyone else is saying, she's a bitch who just needs to insult you to feel better about herself.

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  • Thatguy777
    12 years ago | pl

    Yeah people can kill your self esteem very easily, and sometimes it takes years to get it back.

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  • SwimBikeRun
    12 years ago | pl

    Clearly your sister has her own issues and she's taking it out on you. It's not nice to treat anyone that way, especially a sibling. It's a shame you can't talk to her, but if she is relentless, you've done the best thing you can by removing yourself from the situation.

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  • lovebuzz1025
    12 years ago | pl

    She sounds like an awful bitch. As long as you're happy with yourself, that's all that matters. Don't listen to her.

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