Oh come on, she didn't get pregnant by herself! If he didn't take precautions he's equally responsible for any baby that results - it's not the child's fault its father didn't want it, he still fathered it
Sex isn't just "making babies" Sex can be so much more and people who are engaging in sexual activities are NOT necessarily mature (nor fit) to be parents.
It should be a guys choice to not be involved in a child's life if he knows this since day one. If he however bails on her when it's too late to abort it that fucker should pay child support!
And a guy can wear a condom and a condom CAN break. It has happened to me once, thankfully nothing happened that time. I was quick to go on the pills after that incident.
Of course sex isn't just "making babies" BUT also of course, it does have that potential for most people doing it.
I don't understand you second sentence about the man's choice not to be involved if he knows what from day one? Apologies if I'm misunderstanding you, but you seem to be implying that if there's unwanted pregnancy and the woman doesn't abort it, the man shouldn't be expected to financially support her and the child? In other words, they both made a mistake, but she bears all the brunt of it?
The point about abortion is that it isn't a desirable thing, just sometimes necessary when contraception fails. No-one will ever convince me that an embryo or foetus has more rights than the woman unwillingly carry it. Ideally the man should be involved in the decision, but should never have the final say, that must remain with the woman.
I'll try to rephrase myself. English isn't my first language so sometimes I do get carried away and lose all concept of grammar.
I agree with your last paragraph to a 100% Every child deserve to be born wanted by at least one parent and "pro-lifers" annoy the shit out of me because they, as you say, claim that the foetus has more rights than the woman carrying it.
Moving on to the part you didn't understand: If I have sex with a man and we use a condom and we are both saying that we do not want children and the condom breaks I do not think I have any right to force parenting upon him if I for some reason decide to keep the baby.
I should be able to take care of it alone both emotionally and financially and not force him to pay for a child he didn't want.
As you said, the woman does have the final say and if she cannot financially support a child she should not have it at all.
Unsure if you and I can ever agree on this however since it seems to be a subject were people have very different opinions and it may also have to do with how easy it is where you are from for a woman to finance her child alone.
Here in Sweden I'd just get more well-fare if the father wasn't signed on any papers. since we have a rather good structure when it comes to poor people= Everyone are entitled to the essentials (Food, clothes, home, health-care, education) So there really is no need for me to demand that a man pays for a child he do not want if the decision to keep it is only mine.
As someone who (like most white Australians) can speak only one language, I'm totally impressed - it never occurred to me that English wasn't your first language.
I do see what you mean now and I agree ....... I've had friends, both lesbian and straight, who've had kids and not expected or wanted the male to be involved in financial support.
From what I know of your country's welfare structure, it's the best in the world, isn't it? Ours is not too bad, but continually under attack from both sides of the political spectrum; for example, we had a female atheist childless Labour Prime Minister, who removed government child support from a big proportion of single parents, most of them women ...... I think she also thought she was a feminist, she certainly complained enough about her undoubtedly misogynist opposite number, who is now PM, but in my opinion at that stage he was only talking misogyny, she was doing it
Thanks! I'm very interested in reading and writing and I've been trying my best to make my English vocabulary, sentence-structure and grammar as best as I can possibly make it since I intend to write in English (Swedish can only be read by a smaller amount of people, haha)
Glad that you see where I am coming from at least. I am of course entirely with you that a child who bails on a pregnant mother where he once promised to stay should pay child support and help her through being an unwilling single mother.
And I do not know what the rest of the world looks like but I am willing to agree with you anyway. We have been spoiled with a really good and blossoming country for many decades.
But the last years after the financial crisis ( I don't even know if that's the proper term for it) Things have been going down-hill.
High unemployment, longer queues to get your medical care and surgeries as well as over-worked nurses and doctors.
Not to mention that we just laid 8 years under a government that prioritise the rich behind us.
I think I ran away from topic there for a moment ...
Anyway if what you say is true that is awful, around here there's a certain amount of cash that parents gets for each and everyone of their child. (One might argue that maybe a family that is doing really well should not get these extra money and they should instead be going to the poorest people but that's another story)
So what are you going to write in English? Honestly, have a look at the standard of grammar etc on here from many English speaking people - you win hands down! Except I realised you meant "man" instead of "child" in 1st line of para 2, but that's just a mistake anyone could make. And I think you mean the govt prioritised rich AHEAD not behind ......
So has that government just changed to something better or do you still have the shitty one? I know that here federally if there were an election the liberal coalition would be out, but I'm not that convinced the opposition are that much better.
Yeah, that change to welfare has resulted in increased homelessness , women putting up with domestic violence because it's harder to leave on less money ... it stinks ...... also anecdotally more mums with young kids turning to sex work as a last resort to support themselves and their kids, and of course taking any job they can get even if it's paid under the award.
Haven't noticed the pollies taking any cuts in salary or conditions though? How about in Sweden?
Is it normal to believe that men should have no say in abortions?
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Oh come on, she didn't get pregnant by herself! If he didn't take precautions he's equally responsible for any baby that results - it's not the child's fault its father didn't want it, he still fathered it
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Sex isn't just "making babies" Sex can be so much more and people who are engaging in sexual activities are NOT necessarily mature (nor fit) to be parents.
It should be a guys choice to not be involved in a child's life if he knows this since day one. If he however bails on her when it's too late to abort it that fucker should pay child support!
And a guy can wear a condom and a condom CAN break. It has happened to me once, thankfully nothing happened that time. I was quick to go on the pills after that incident.
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Of course sex isn't just "making babies" BUT also of course, it does have that potential for most people doing it.
I don't understand you second sentence about the man's choice not to be involved if he knows what from day one? Apologies if I'm misunderstanding you, but you seem to be implying that if there's unwanted pregnancy and the woman doesn't abort it, the man shouldn't be expected to financially support her and the child? In other words, they both made a mistake, but she bears all the brunt of it?
The point about abortion is that it isn't a desirable thing, just sometimes necessary when contraception fails. No-one will ever convince me that an embryo or foetus has more rights than the woman unwillingly carry it. Ideally the man should be involved in the decision, but should never have the final say, that must remain with the woman.
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I'll try to rephrase myself. English isn't my first language so sometimes I do get carried away and lose all concept of grammar.
I agree with your last paragraph to a 100% Every child deserve to be born wanted by at least one parent and "pro-lifers" annoy the shit out of me because they, as you say, claim that the foetus has more rights than the woman carrying it.
Moving on to the part you didn't understand: If I have sex with a man and we use a condom and we are both saying that we do not want children and the condom breaks I do not think I have any right to force parenting upon him if I for some reason decide to keep the baby.
I should be able to take care of it alone both emotionally and financially and not force him to pay for a child he didn't want.
As you said, the woman does have the final say and if she cannot financially support a child she should not have it at all.
Unsure if you and I can ever agree on this however since it seems to be a subject were people have very different opinions and it may also have to do with how easy it is where you are from for a woman to finance her child alone.
Here in Sweden I'd just get more well-fare if the father wasn't signed on any papers. since we have a rather good structure when it comes to poor people= Everyone are entitled to the essentials (Food, clothes, home, health-care, education) So there really is no need for me to demand that a man pays for a child he do not want if the decision to keep it is only mine.
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As someone who (like most white Australians) can speak only one language, I'm totally impressed - it never occurred to me that English wasn't your first language.
I do see what you mean now and I agree ....... I've had friends, both lesbian and straight, who've had kids and not expected or wanted the male to be involved in financial support.
From what I know of your country's welfare structure, it's the best in the world, isn't it? Ours is not too bad, but continually under attack from both sides of the political spectrum; for example, we had a female atheist childless Labour Prime Minister, who removed government child support from a big proportion of single parents, most of them women ...... I think she also thought she was a feminist, she certainly complained enough about her undoubtedly misogynist opposite number, who is now PM, but in my opinion at that stage he was only talking misogyny, she was doing it
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Thanks! I'm very interested in reading and writing and I've been trying my best to make my English vocabulary, sentence-structure and grammar as best as I can possibly make it since I intend to write in English (Swedish can only be read by a smaller amount of people, haha)
Glad that you see where I am coming from at least. I am of course entirely with you that a child who bails on a pregnant mother where he once promised to stay should pay child support and help her through being an unwilling single mother.
And I do not know what the rest of the world looks like but I am willing to agree with you anyway. We have been spoiled with a really good and blossoming country for many decades.
But the last years after the financial crisis ( I don't even know if that's the proper term for it) Things have been going down-hill.
High unemployment, longer queues to get your medical care and surgeries as well as over-worked nurses and doctors.
Not to mention that we just laid 8 years under a government that prioritise the rich behind us.
I think I ran away from topic there for a moment ...
Anyway if what you say is true that is awful, around here there's a certain amount of cash that parents gets for each and everyone of their child. (One might argue that maybe a family that is doing really well should not get these extra money and they should instead be going to the poorest people but that's another story)
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So what are you going to write in English? Honestly, have a look at the standard of grammar etc on here from many English speaking people - you win hands down! Except I realised you meant "man" instead of "child" in 1st line of para 2, but that's just a mistake anyone could make. And I think you mean the govt prioritised rich AHEAD not behind ......
So has that government just changed to something better or do you still have the shitty one? I know that here federally if there were an election the liberal coalition would be out, but I'm not that convinced the opposition are that much better.
Yeah, that change to welfare has resulted in increased homelessness , women putting up with domestic violence because it's harder to leave on less money ... it stinks ...... also anecdotally more mums with young kids turning to sex work as a last resort to support themselves and their kids, and of course taking any job they can get even if it's paid under the award.
Haven't noticed the pollies taking any cuts in salary or conditions though? How about in Sweden?