It's one thing to see the Cosbys on TV and try to be a better person, it's a completely different story when you are raised by somebody. Try as you might, the most ingrained example of how a person should behave, the strongest model of how a person interacts with the word, comes from your parents. And on levels you probably have yet to realize, you've taken many cues from your father about how the world is and how you should respond to it. Your belief system, something you're less aware of than the actual behaviors that it causes, is something that you began to learn from your father even before you knew you were alive. So, yes, this is completely normal. Can you stop? Yes. But not without help. The only thing that comes close to talk therapy in effectiveness is religion. It overhauls that very belief system that is doing you in. If that's not your bag, therapy is vastly superior, very effective, but more expensive. Just wanting to be different...you'll be fucking lucky if that works. Good luck, whatever you choose.
Is it normal to become the things you hate?
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It's one thing to see the Cosbys on TV and try to be a better person, it's a completely different story when you are raised by somebody. Try as you might, the most ingrained example of how a person should behave, the strongest model of how a person interacts with the word, comes from your parents. And on levels you probably have yet to realize, you've taken many cues from your father about how the world is and how you should respond to it. Your belief system, something you're less aware of than the actual behaviors that it causes, is something that you began to learn from your father even before you knew you were alive. So, yes, this is completely normal. Can you stop? Yes. But not without help. The only thing that comes close to talk therapy in effectiveness is religion. It overhauls that very belief system that is doing you in. If that's not your bag, therapy is vastly superior, very effective, but more expensive. Just wanting to be different...you'll be fucking lucky if that works. Good luck, whatever you choose.