Unfortunately we are products of our environment. It's the old nature vs nurture argument. This is what you grew up with and although you know it's wrong you find yourself behaving this way. I hear you. I find myself behaving more and more like my mother every year. And although I love her, she's crazy!
For me I just try to pay attention to when I think I'm acting like my mother. When I notice it I stop talking and take a second to evaluate if this is really how I feel or if it's just how I was conditioned to respond. If I didn't catch myself until later, if possible, I go back and tell that person I was wrong. I'm not perfect but I want to be happy with myself. So I guess for me being more conscious of things that I don't like about myself and actively trying to correct them is how I cope. I can't say whether it's actually changing my behavior or not but at least I'm holding myself responsible.
The fact of the matter is, we're adults now. We are in complete control of how we feel, how we act, and what we say. It's up to you to take control of who you are. If you need help doing that there's nothing wrong with that. This is the human condition. You are normal.
Is it normal to become the things you hate?
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Unfortunately we are products of our environment. It's the old nature vs nurture argument. This is what you grew up with and although you know it's wrong you find yourself behaving this way. I hear you. I find myself behaving more and more like my mother every year. And although I love her, she's crazy!
For me I just try to pay attention to when I think I'm acting like my mother. When I notice it I stop talking and take a second to evaluate if this is really how I feel or if it's just how I was conditioned to respond. If I didn't catch myself until later, if possible, I go back and tell that person I was wrong. I'm not perfect but I want to be happy with myself. So I guess for me being more conscious of things that I don't like about myself and actively trying to correct them is how I cope. I can't say whether it's actually changing my behavior or not but at least I'm holding myself responsible.
The fact of the matter is, we're adults now. We are in complete control of how we feel, how we act, and what we say. It's up to you to take control of who you are. If you need help doing that there's nothing wrong with that. This is the human condition. You are normal.