Is it normal to be yelled at by parents?

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I am a 39 year old woman that has moved home with my parents after I left my husband. My parents are negative about everything in life. They thrive on each other to see who can more negative, at times. I have always been the black sheep of the family and now that I have had to move in with them, it only gets worse. I am unemployed after being laid off from a bank for 17 years. Parents are always make smart comments to hurt my feelings and degrading me. They tell me they love me after they yell for a while to get their point across. Why are paeople so negative and why do they have to raise their voice?

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  • staybeautiful
    11 years ago | pl

    Don't let their negative energy pull u down. U don't deserve it. They make then selfs feel better by hating on u and that is not fair. Remember do wat makes happy. Do something to make you proud! U don't need to impress anyone but urself. U should pittty ur parents for having such negativity in them.

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago | pl

    Try not to be hurt by it everyone expresses themselves differently

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago | pl

    Obviously they want to help or else they would not have let you move in. Maybe their yelling is more out of concern because there is not much more they can do to help you and it bothers them. I would just agree with them to keep conflict to a minimum. Be sure to let them know you appreciate their help.

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  • mtnw
    13 years ago | pl

    sorry, i meant to say to keep job searching for a ft position after you've got the pt job of course. i think if you can get away during the day, you know, make some space, it might help.

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  • mtnw
    13 years ago | pl

    no doubt your parents are not happy with you moving back either.

    if you're 39, then you don't need to be told to hit the pavement hard as you can and get a job asap. even if it's pt with low wages, it gets you out of the house a few hours each week.

    then you can put your plan together and move out. good luck to you two ladies:)

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  • cgirl123456
    13 years ago | pl

    I have similar family problems, and I'm stuck with them as well because i can't get a job. It's awful to live here, and my parents like to have contests to see whose life is worse. The whole thing is awful! It's not a normal family structure, but it's the best you're going to get because there's no way to make them change. Hopefully you will get a job soon and move out! That's what I keep telling myself.

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