I wouldn't worry too much about regretting it because unfortunately even if you ARE with someone you love you could still regret it. You could have a really messy break up and end up hating them and regret them having your virginity.
Emotions wise I don't think you have to love them but I would say you DO have to care, and you definitely have to trust them.
Sex can feel really empty if you don't care about the person, especially for something special like a first time, it can feel wasted.
Sex can also be really scary and embarrassing if you don't trust the person.
The caring has to be reciprocated as well, I wouldn't advise giving your virginity to someone who doesn't care about you.
Morality wise it is really completely up to you, I personally don't think there is anything wrong with it but it really doesn't matter what I think.
If you feel it's wrong, even if you can't justify why, that feeling with probably stay with you through the experience.
I wasn't in love with the person I lost my virginity too and I definitely don't regret it, it was a really nice first time, whereas a friend of mine lost hers to the boy she was in love with at the time and really regrets it now.
I think it would be nice if I could have lost my virginity to my current partner but It doesn't bother either of us.
You say you might go for it and hope it evolves into something, I'm telling you now, do NOT do it solely on the hope that you'll feel something eventually because there is a large chance that it wont, base your decision on how you are feeling NOW, not how you think you could feel.
I can not stress how important trust is though, sex is not nice if you are worrying about her gossiping to all her friends about you. And neither is her ACTUALLY gossiping about you, or laughing at you.
This is YOUR decision though, only you know how you feel, I may have lost my virginity to someone I didn't love but I was pretty confident that I was okay with things being that way before I made the decision. Be at least 90% sure. (It's doubtful you'll ever be a hundred)
Lastly don't stress too much, plenty of people regret how they lost their virginity and still go on to have perfectly happy healthy sex lives.
IIN to be worried about the morality/emotionality of my 1st time sex?
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I wouldn't worry too much about regretting it because unfortunately even if you ARE with someone you love you could still regret it. You could have a really messy break up and end up hating them and regret them having your virginity.
Emotions wise I don't think you have to love them but I would say you DO have to care, and you definitely have to trust them.
Sex can feel really empty if you don't care about the person, especially for something special like a first time, it can feel wasted.
Sex can also be really scary and embarrassing if you don't trust the person.
The caring has to be reciprocated as well, I wouldn't advise giving your virginity to someone who doesn't care about you.
Morality wise it is really completely up to you, I personally don't think there is anything wrong with it but it really doesn't matter what I think.
If you feel it's wrong, even if you can't justify why, that feeling with probably stay with you through the experience.
I wasn't in love with the person I lost my virginity too and I definitely don't regret it, it was a really nice first time, whereas a friend of mine lost hers to the boy she was in love with at the time and really regrets it now.
I think it would be nice if I could have lost my virginity to my current partner but It doesn't bother either of us.
You say you might go for it and hope it evolves into something, I'm telling you now, do NOT do it solely on the hope that you'll feel something eventually because there is a large chance that it wont, base your decision on how you are feeling NOW, not how you think you could feel.
I can not stress how important trust is though, sex is not nice if you are worrying about her gossiping to all her friends about you. And neither is her ACTUALLY gossiping about you, or laughing at you.
This is YOUR decision though, only you know how you feel, I may have lost my virginity to someone I didn't love but I was pretty confident that I was okay with things being that way before I made the decision. Be at least 90% sure. (It's doubtful you'll ever be a hundred)
Lastly don't stress too much, plenty of people regret how they lost their virginity and still go on to have perfectly happy healthy sex lives.