This will sound strange and is somewhat of a primal thing. But I thought it might help:
In every group there are group dynamics.
People in groups take on a role and probably won't even notice. You may be the funny, the cool or even the lame guy of the group. But everyone in that group (usually including yourself) is subconsciously trying to keep you in that role to maintain stability.
As you said yourself, you have attained the role of the leader. It's very hard to break out of a role without changing your group - And for the leader it's probably the hardest. If you show weakness, the group feels threatened as a whole. That's probably also why people get akward when you get real. Not only because they have always known you as the strong leader, but because they really want you to be that leader. They depend on you.
Well those are basic human instincts, and I believe it's possible to overcome them. But if you are looking for a best friend you can talk with on the same level, I'd suggest you look outside of your group. Maybe find someone who doesen't know your other friends.
Is it normal to be very popular but still have no true friends?
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This will sound strange and is somewhat of a primal thing. But I thought it might help:
In every group there are group dynamics.
People in groups take on a role and probably won't even notice. You may be the funny, the cool or even the lame guy of the group. But everyone in that group (usually including yourself) is subconsciously trying to keep you in that role to maintain stability.
As you said yourself, you have attained the role of the leader. It's very hard to break out of a role without changing your group - And for the leader it's probably the hardest. If you show weakness, the group feels threatened as a whole. That's probably also why people get akward when you get real. Not only because they have always known you as the strong leader, but because they really want you to be that leader. They depend on you.
Well those are basic human instincts, and I believe it's possible to overcome them. But if you are looking for a best friend you can talk with on the same level, I'd suggest you look outside of your group. Maybe find someone who doesen't know your other friends.