Well my take on it is that people flock to you for what you provide them. I'm not sure how old you are but I found in high school the popular people were the most shallow, willing to trade and adapt their values to others for popularity. I think you are the umbrella which they all huddle under and form closer friendships between one another. It's just your social standing right now and the people you are associating with.
Of course, someone who has only one or two friends is going to devote themselves and more of their time to those two people and form a stronger, closer bond. Your bonds to people are diluted through sheer numbers.
I am 24 now, but indeed, I have been like this since I was in middle school. I still have many friends from high school. I managed to fuse my university friends with my high school friends. And now, even people from work are getting into my group. I don't know, I just like being around people and I never ever reject anyone as a friend.
I don't know, I just wished that people actually worried about me a little sometimes. It seems like people believe that I am always cheerful and that I have no problems.
Youre 24 and you still spend time with your high school friends to me that indicates loyalty from both parties. Surely these friends would listen if there was something you were going through? Maybe you just need to get the timing right to have these talks. Sometimes if people are partying they will run a mile if someone strikes up a d and m!
No not weird at all I still have them too. I was only trying to point out the loyalty of that and illustrate that you may have closer friendships than you think
Is it normal to be very popular but still have no true friends?
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Well my take on it is that people flock to you for what you provide them. I'm not sure how old you are but I found in high school the popular people were the most shallow, willing to trade and adapt their values to others for popularity. I think you are the umbrella which they all huddle under and form closer friendships between one another. It's just your social standing right now and the people you are associating with.
Of course, someone who has only one or two friends is going to devote themselves and more of their time to those two people and form a stronger, closer bond. Your bonds to people are diluted through sheer numbers.
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I am 24 now, but indeed, I have been like this since I was in middle school. I still have many friends from high school. I managed to fuse my university friends with my high school friends. And now, even people from work are getting into my group. I don't know, I just like being around people and I never ever reject anyone as a friend.
I don't know, I just wished that people actually worried about me a little sometimes. It seems like people believe that I am always cheerful and that I have no problems.
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Youre 24 and you still spend time with your high school friends to me that indicates loyalty from both parties. Surely these friends would listen if there was something you were going through? Maybe you just need to get the timing right to have these talks. Sometimes if people are partying they will run a mile if someone strikes up a d and m!
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I should clarify - d and m means deep and meaningful conversation, in case you're not familiar with the term.
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Thanks for the clarification!
And yeah, I know it is weird to still have high school friends... but I am from a small town and everyone kind of know each other here anyway.
I will see... maybe I just have to get over the awkwardness and try to have more intimate conversations with my friends.
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No not weird at all I still have them too. I was only trying to point out the loyalty of that and illustrate that you may have closer friendships than you think