Is it normal to be uncomfortable...

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alright, my boyfriend is much more experienced than I am (he's done everything under the sun, I've done...nothing[he was even the first guy I kissed, ever]). So it's kinda scary, intimidating. He reminds me I'm beautiful, that I'm smart and sexy and anything I could ask for, more than I could imagine! He's fantastic! but he's a guy, not to be sexist or anything, steriotypical I suppose but he wants to do more. I have an eating disorder so my body is...well...I look awful. I'm sooo thin now you can see my ribs and hip bones(some ppl look at me worriedly some tell me i look fantastic kinda confusing...) and it's not that bad but its...humiliating because he's always trying to convince me to eat, says i'm too thin but it's not so simple! I was abused when I was small...several times and I don't want to use my disorder or my past as an excuse but I'm so damn uncomfortable! I can't let him do anything...I want to like my body is dying for it but my everything else is so not happy about letting him see all of me (and what i've done to myself).

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  • xtruthx
    13 years ago

    What your therapist was getting at was that the sexual abuse may be the root issue to what you're doing to your body. You have to deal with the root of the problem before it can be "fixed".I was sexually abused from ages 3-14. The pain and hurt never really go away but you have to find a healthier way to deal with it. You may also need to look at what else in your life could be preventing you from changing right now.

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  • tingrl117
    13 years ago

    Hon, you need to eat... If he loves you for you and wants you to eat, that means he cares for you... I've put on a couple pounds recently and when I look in the mirror all I see is crap, but when I'm with my bf, I feel beautiful, and that's how you should feel... Start to feel comfortable with yourself around your bf and you'll be happy

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago

    Get some help and dont do anything u are uncomfortable with

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  • Spanky69
    13 years ago

    Talk to him! I went through a very similar experience and I know how it feels. You'll never get over this if you don't open up and talk about it. Trust me, it will get better! It's perfectly normal to feel like you do but you can only change it by being open about it with the people you care about.

    Shame on all the idiots on here who are talking rubbish!

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  • JuliusE
    13 years ago

    Go to counseling with him. You will learn together how to cope with this. Not doing anyhing will only make it worse

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  • Tafoui
    14 years ago

    Look like you are ready to change for the better! Tell him you are just out of a difficult phase, if he love you he will understand. Have fun!

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  • Johntomas117
    14 years ago

    Your past and disorder are the reason you look this way, it's their fault! U could use them as an exude I would!

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  • 048forlife
    11 years ago

    Before you are able to become comfortable in yourself you are going to have to overcome the eating disorder. When I was younger I was molested which led to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and I would have flashbacks everytime I was touched sexually. I had to go to therapy and handle all of that before I could handle having sex. Handle your personal demons and you'll eventually progress in your interpersonal affairs.

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  • Fridge
    13 years ago

    Dw ur fine but just get to like milkshakes cus I usto be too thin and thts all I ate.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Im rly sorry. Seriusly. Im SO sry.

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    • whoever
      13 years ago

      Sorry? What for? You've done nothing to me.

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  • DES
    13 years ago

    I'm in the middle I to was well we don't need to get into it I understand my husbend does not no one really does in less you've been there it's hard no matter what they say you still have that other person in the back of your mind. Remember other that make you cry dont deserve your tears and the tthe ones that are won't make you cry

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  • ruralfrights
    14 years ago

    I can't believe that people responding take this lightly, even sexy. THAT, my sweet, is abnormal.

    The hard truth is nothing short of this: you are Dying. No lecture or pleasant statement in the world will change this. And although you may exhibit the behaviors, you are doing so against your own will. That is known as powerlessness and the sooner you see that and admit it, then maybe your life can be saved. The last thing you want right now iis the first you need. Please see a doctor. Admit your powerlessness openly to another.

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    • whoever
      14 years ago

      yes, i know I'm dying and that eating disorders aren't 'normal' EDNOS is weird so prozac won't help because that's more of a bulimic thing... I do have a therapist but he wants me to report the sexual abuse so I stopped seeing him. I half wish I hadn't said anything about it so I could just go and be comfortable and not get dogged about abuse or about who or when or where it happened when I was little-bitty I don't want to do anything about it now. I'm not sure this man was equipped to deal with eating disorders anyway. I mean, I'm aware childhood is important in finding the root to my disorder, I'm not sure I care WHY I have an issue I just want to be fixed. I want to eat, go out with my friends and be comfortable and feel pretty I wish I could be the way I was what 8 months ago? It's scary how fast these things happen...

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  • Tay
    14 years ago

    Therapy helps a lot.

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