Is it normal to be unattached from your parents for no reason?

i'm thinking... this may be a self-protection behavior.

if you don't care as deeply as you can... then they can't hurt you when they send you off to the other parent.

Definitely normal. When you're around your parents you get along but when you're away from them you want to live your own life, be more independent. I'm the same and I'm a similar age to you.

Yeah, sort of. I can be around my parents and have a good time, but when away I don't even think about them, but unlike you, I don't feel love for them.

I am truly undecided if it's a problem with me or a problem with them as to why I feel this way. They were rather cold and unfeeling when I was a kid, but that alone isn't necessarily grounds for not loving them. They did take care of me. But they did do me wrong too. So, I can't answer with certainty. I honestly can't say that had hey been even slightly more affectionate or caring that I'd be more affectionate towards them.

I really wish one of my parents would die just so I can see how I feel (I've wished this for a looooooong time). And just by saying that, I think I wouldn't care. But I want to experience it nonetheless.

When my brother and I were younger and both at home, we actually formulated a plan to kill our dad (obviously we didn't do it, but we did discuss it at length). He was pretty mean, but we were just kids then and didn't really understand him. Now that I'm older, I feel like I understand my dad, forgive him and relate to him far better than my mom. When I was a kid, my mom falsely positioned herself as a 'savior' of sorts (as if she was the only parent who cared) but later on in life I kind of realized it was rather the opposite.

Anyway, both my parents have major issues. I recently found out my dad is a heroin addict (he was always known to me to be an alcoholic and an occasional drug user), now he's still a full blown alcoholic AND newly addicted to heroin/opiates. It's weird. I've been there myself, but it's so strange to see a parent go through it. Your parent is not supposed to sink that low. It just feels like kids are 'allowed' to disappoint their parents, and it's expected to some degree, but parents are NEVER supposed to disappoint their kids, Does that make sense? My dad just went through dope sickness and I observed it, it was disturbing to say the least. Even though I feel like I don't 'love' my parents, I still feel for my dad's pain and I feel a shame and disappointment in him right now. I've seen this man come home after wrecking his truck, flipping it into a ditch, and walking through miles and miles of marshland to avoid getting a DUI...yet I have never felt the same level of disappointment I feel right now in him while he was dope sick. This is all both so old and so new to me, I know I'm rambling here and I apologize....I guess I'm still trying to sort all this out at 33 and also feeling new feelings all the time regarding my parents. My mom is a 'spiritual narcissist'. It's maddening.