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So I've never really been in a serious relationship or had a serious boyfriend , but every time I hear or just watch movies on guys being possessive and controlling its turns me on, sometimes I imagined myself in a controlling relationship and I like it, but never really been in one. Is this normal?
What turns you on is that you think it is a sign of your desirability - as if you were a prized possession he simply must have and keep to himself and play with as he wishes.
It is not. It is about power and control and a sign of a very sick relationship that, if pursued, would cause you great grief and possible permanent injury and psychic damage. Wake up from your fantasy.
I agree 100%. Listen to Mando's comment!
I know a girl that was in a very controlling relationship once, and it took her ages to get out of it no matter how hard she tried. But she finally did, eventually. You can tell it definitely changed her though. And when I say changed her, I mean really changed her. Mentally and emotionally.
No. Im wondering if youre thinking you want a guy whos controlling because you think that means hes tough and manly and knows how to get what he wants.
In reality controlling men are insecure pussies who feel the need to control others to feel better about themselves because they cant even control themselves.
Trust me it is NOT fun to have some man controlling every aspect of your life (or trying to).
I can understand a man being dominant in bed being a turn on but to have someone dominate and control your life...well that's a little fucked up excuse my French, but then again you have no romantic relationship experience to know exactly how horrible a controlling man can be.