Is it normal to be turned on by cheating?

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I'm a 19 year old heterosexual male, and I have been with my girlfriend for the past five years. Everything has been fine, until one day (and I don't know what galvanised the idea) but for some reason I had a jealous thought of her being with someone else in a sexual relationship. She never has been, but for some reason the thought haunted me for a brief period of time like a plague of paranoia that wouldn't leave. My girlfriend literally doesn't have it in herself to cheat, she's just not like that, but for some reason these dreams came back.

In one dream my girlfriend was having bare vaginal sex with another man and enjoying herself, and I hate to admit it but after thinking about the dream I couldn't help but get hard and have an overwhelming urge to have sex. I am straight and I strictly am attracted to women ONLY, I'm not bisexual and I don't question my sexuality, but for some reason - through my jealousy, my body feels ragingly horny at the thought of watching my beautiful girlfriend having sex with other men for her own enjoyment. I was so concerned about this I tried to look for answers on the Internet. Someone told me apparently it's a natural reaction as your body is preparing to gear up to have sex once the first male has finished with her. But surely this natural instinct should have been extinct from our ancestors long ago?

What is strange is that in reality, I'd be heartbroken and extremely angry, but in a fictional world the thought gives me the urge to masturbate. Surely this can't be normal? We have a healthy sex life and I'm far too embarrassed to mention it to anyone, but what can I do?

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  • kittenkaboodell
    13 years ago

    I have exactly the same feelings about my husband. I used to have him tell me about his prior girlfriends. I'd get very excited. I was unable to have orgasms until one day I asked about his ex while we were making love. I came for the first time. Eventually, the prior girlfriend thing got boring. He is very good looking, and in a conversation about sex with one of my girlfriends one day, I asked her if she would like to find out about him for herself. She said "sure." I told my husband about it and it took some convincing that I wouldn't be upset, but finally they got it together. I can't be there because I get jealous, but I love to think about what he's doing while he's with other women, and I get orgasmic when he tells me about it in detail afterward, and if the lady he was with tells me about it. I also found I like to smell and taste the other woman on him.

    I think it was good that ti started with a good friend, but for many years he's been cheating on me with my friends, with strangers, and with ladies we find on the Internet. It's the most incredible turn on. I think I'm weird for a woman, but it's nice to find anyone else who gets excited by being cheated on, even if it is a guy.

    Talk to her about it and if you decide to do anything start slowly with fantasies, and then maybe to her petting with other men. It's really about me when my husband cheats because he tells me about in detail to turn me on, and he always comes home to me.

    I like the whole bareback thing too because it allows me to taste and smell her juices, but nowadays that's more difficult. He now buys those at home AIDS test kits, and wants to be sure she has had a recent negative PAP smear, and he asks directly about herpes. If everything is negative then bareback it is, but diseases are one of the reasons why his cheating with my friends is better. I know for sure they will be honest, and I usually have a good idea if they are having multiple partners. Some have husbands who don't screw them anymore, or are divorced and haven't had sex in years. They really want to be serviced by my hubby, and I can feel secure that they have no diseases.

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