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Okay, a question that has always been on my mind is: Is it normal to be turned on by people watching/listening to me masturbate? This could be in person, across the road from me (through the window), webcam or phone.
I guess it's kind of reverse voyeurism. I've tried to be open about it with previous partners but none of them have understood the obsession.
You have a streak of exhibitionism, perfectly normal. The trick is finding people who also want to see what you've got. Showing off in front of an unwilling audience is looking for trouble (although it may just serve to be an even greater turn-on for you) and can lead to legal problems...
Setting yourself up on a porn site with a webcam is a great way to be an exhibitionist while in the safety and comfort of your own home. Also, you know that people tuning in want to watch you, and will usually leave positive comments. It's actually very satisfying and builds self-esteem (If you can't tell, I'm a webcam wanker myself) Also, you probably won't ever actually meet these people, unlike working your crankshaft in front of an open window for a neighbor to see.
A good way to introduce this to a partner is to go on a vacation, (Vegas is great) and leave the windows open a little while having sex. Chances are, SOMEONE can see from SOME other window, but there's no way of knowing who or where. Likewise, there's no accurate way for them to find you. My wife would NEVER even flash a nipple in public, but she's never more horny than when having sex in a hotel with the windows open. We started with the windows open just a little and no lights on, now we do it with the windows wide open, all lights on and we'll be RIGHT in front of the window. I can barely keep clothes on her in a hotel anymore - its a good problem to have!