Is it normal to be the one who listens all the time?

Exact same thing with me. It sucks... Then when something crappy happens to me everyone is to busy.

Are you my long lost sister? That happens to me too! :( it totally sucks then everyone tells you to just suck it up and cheer up then two minutes later they're balling on the phone. F.our.L's

It happens to me also. No one wants to hear my woes. Just like you, they blow it off as it being insignificant.

Omigosh, i know exactly what's happening to you. I absolutely loathe this. My friend will rave and rant and complain and brag about her life, (whether it's about how great it is and how everyone loves her, or how awful it is and how everyone hates her,) and when i try to say something, (one thing!!) she ignores it and tells me about how someone complimented her or how annoying it is when guys ask her out all the time.

This might not be THAT irritating if everyone didn't ignore me when i'm with her, and i might be able to sympathize with her that guys asking her out all the time can get irritating, except that i don't have that experience. Yup, i'm in tenth grade and have never once been on a date, or asked out, nor would anyone give me the time of the day if i asked.

Also, my own family ignores me. If i do my chores like i'm fucking supposed to, no one acknowledges it, even if i'm doing mine and my7 sister's. Yet, if i miss something, or if my sister doesn't do what she's told I get yelled at for it, and my dad storms around the house complaining that he does everything for us, and we don't help him for shit, and my mom ignores about every word that comes out of my mouth. And my sister's always pissed at me because apparently i'm a 'Jesus freak', or she's ignoring me too.

God it's maddening.

Are you listening to these people? We're all problem solvers? Pfft! Please! Caring too much doesn't solve problems. Unselfishness is just an old wives' tale, a primitive method to hate yourself. That's not good. Optimism anyone?

I'll help you: your manifestation to other people is bad because you don't know when to quit. It's simple: don't talk too much, let people change the subject, no-one likes a boring overly virtuous person. Be more positive, loving yourself is selfish, wise up: you're in the gang. I'm sorry I have to half disagree on not being selfish, I've been as helpful to you as I could.

Next time someone asks your help, flip them the bird. That will teach them!

@ story auther
not a bad idea lol

This also happens to me.I feel that it is a gift to be a good listener.People may not remember your name,but they will remember how good you made them feel.You probably have no idea how special you make others feel.Dale Carnige ,one of the most influential people in public relations said that one of the best ways to build relationships is to be a good listener and encourage people to talk about themselves.Bless you:-)

same here, we are the problem solvers, unfortunatly as this type of person, 9 times out of 10 there is no-one to solve our problems, just have to go at it alone im afraid, or stop being the problem solver lol

It's more normal than I wish it was. I am the listener of the group too but at the same time I do get "turns" at being helped but I have a network I have to spread it through vs a one on one person helping each other. Just find the one that will listen to you.

It's normal. But because you play the role of thrapist so much. It's like an inprint on in their mind, saying that you're the listener. You just need to find someone who will play thrapist for you.