Is it normal to be superficial?

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Is it normal that I think I'm beautiful and highly intelligent? I sometimes feel conceited like I am better than others and I don't know why. I can't really confide to anyone about it; that's just offensive and I'm afraid to expose to others my true nature. In my opinion, my biggest flaw is the fact that I feel superior. I look down upon people when they don't decide to study at Universities after high school let alone go to college. On the other hand, I decided to pursue a degree in Engineering from a competitive university. It also bothers me when people don't invest any time into their appearance. This is hypocritical of me because in high school, I never gave a shit about my appearance. I feel weak now because I do wear makeup and am almost ashamed to admit that I care about my looks. I spent up to a half hour a day trying to make myself look good. If I'm air drying my hair, it can take up to an hour and a half! College came and now I feel so much more superficial and hate myself for it.

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  • Bootygopop
    12 years ago

    It might be the norm, but it's certainly not good. Tolerance is very important in our society. You are only seeing things from your own perspective which is unfair considering not everyone has the same opportunities that you do. I agree that some people make excuses for themselves, but I often find that people with few struggles in their lives often have little tolerance for those who have many struggles. I was looked down on for being poor, dropping out of college, getting married at 19 and having a baby at 20. I made some mistakes, but people literally treated me like they were better for me because their circumstances were better. Well, guess what? I finished college, my husband and I are still together, my two children are happy and healthy, and I have a great and promising career. Now, I'm not poor anymore and my circumstances are better, but I certainly never judge anyone for being poor, not finishing school, or having tough circumstances. It's not fair. Some people make poor choices, some people have parents that don't love them, some people have no money, some people have deaths in their families, etc. etc. You don't have any right to deem yourself better than anyone else because you don't know what someone else is going through until you've walked in their shoes. I would suggest taking a step out of yourself and quit living in your own world. You are priveleged and as such you have a social responsibility to reach out to those who are less fortunate and extend your help.

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    13 years ago

    Your appearance and your education are things that YOU value, and so do some other people for that matter. When you look down your nose at people who don't share the same values as you, it's called PREJUDICE. Who did you learn this from?

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    • Bird1
      13 years ago

      Well Said!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      I mean, deep down, I don't WANT to feel this way. Logically, I feel like we are all supposed to be equal. There's just this gut belief in my stomach that we are worth what we are able to contribute to society. I don't know where it came from but it has prevented me from forming relationships with others and I really wish that I could look past it all. But I can't/

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      • SassyFrassyLassie_old
        13 years ago

        I get it, that's why I asked where you learned it. Once you pinpoint when/what/why/who you started thinking like that, then you can change it. I think it's a core belief thing. At least you are questioning it though, right. That's a huge step in the right direction. Nobody wants to believe that they could be prejudice, that's why so many prejudice people start sentences with "I'm not prejudice, but..." or "I'm not racist, but..." Admitting to it is overcoming the biggest part of that challenge to change it. Good for you.

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  • MercedesBenz
    13 years ago

    Pride is the only poison okay to swallow.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    I'm also sick of people calling me a stuck up snob. Can you people honestly say that if you were successful that you would not believe yourselves to be smarter and more ambitious than the average bear? Why is it so shitty of me to recognize this fact?

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  • cowgirl352
    13 years ago

    I totally understand.

    You sound exactly like me to the T, except I'm still in high school. But what's weird is that I plan to study engineering at a top college too; maybe it's something in the wiring of our mathematical brains. I have problems forming relationships too, and sometimes I wish I could just not even compare myself to others or see their flaws. A while back, I posted a question similar to this one and got some pretty negative feedback, but that's just because I worded it in kind of a cocky way, just so you know. Anyhow, society tells us that it's not okay to think so highly of ourselves, and the majority of people believe it. If you wanted to tell someone you knew about this mode of thinking and still have them be your friend, they would have to be either really understanding or think like this too. If you told someone who thinks like the majority of the world, they would probably think you were really screwed up. I think this mode of thinking is normal, but I'm not sure it's healthy. Also, I don't necessarily agree with the whole prejudice thing. Someone looks down on those who don't aim as high career-wise or care about their appearance, and those are decisions people make, not something they're born or stuck with; it's not like apathy or indifference is a disease. I think it's ok to judge people based on what they can control.

    However, I could just be trying to rationalize my own fears of being too conceited by writing this.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Grow up.

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  • firefly88
    13 years ago

    Dude you are so in love with yourself. Get over yourself. No matter how beautiful or intelligent you are there is someone out there who is much more beautiful n intelligent than you are

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  • babe7575
    13 years ago

    Agree with Ewokteeth.

    And your not as smart as you think you are.
    & there will always be people, who think your ugly, no matter how much makeup you wear.

    Best thing to do is ignore those people.
    Confidence is good, too much... and your only fooling yourself.

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  • bubblicious775
    13 years ago

    Hahaha not at all don't worry about it
    If a half an hour is all you take then fuck your lucky me and all my friends take at least an hour and a half if not longer! And were still in high school! No worries (:

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    well thats becuase your a stuck snobs simple as that

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  • gates1839
    13 years ago

    You're normal...join the club

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    At least you know you are :P that makes you much less egotistic

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    lol no one is special no one is difrent theres loads of people like you lol they dont get too far though

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