Jealousy is not a quality that you are born with a tendency towards, it's a negative personality trait that you have to work on controlling. If there is no reason for you to be jealous, you have to figure out a way to get past it or it will destroy this and all future relationships. You can do this and don't think you can't. There is no excuse for irrational jealousy and it is not attractive in anyone.
It helps if you don't have outdated ideas/expectations about monogamy though. For what I would consider to be an enlightened approach, I'd like to direct you to the writings of Dan Savage, www.thestranger.com/savage - he writes an excellent sex-positive column and has very reasonable things to say about fidelity (among other things).
But seriously, you need to work on your jealousy. It may be common, but it's not a good thing at all and no one deserves to be on the receiving end of it.
is it normal to be sooooo jealous??
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Jealousy is not a quality that you are born with a tendency towards, it's a negative personality trait that you have to work on controlling. If there is no reason for you to be jealous, you have to figure out a way to get past it or it will destroy this and all future relationships. You can do this and don't think you can't. There is no excuse for irrational jealousy and it is not attractive in anyone.
It helps if you don't have outdated ideas/expectations about monogamy though. For what I would consider to be an enlightened approach, I'd like to direct you to the writings of Dan Savage, www.thestranger.com/savage - he writes an excellent sex-positive column and has very reasonable things to say about fidelity (among other things).
But seriously, you need to work on your jealousy. It may be common, but it's not a good thing at all and no one deserves to be on the receiving end of it.