Yeah, it is normal; it's just the way you come off. People don't think things like 'he never says anything to me, I bet he's just really shy, so I'm going to go out of my way to get him comfortable'. They are really probably thinking 'wow, he looks cool, I want to get to know him...why isn't he being responsive, what's wrong with me? whats wrong with him? ugh he's a dick'.
You really just have to force a genuine smile.
If someone accuses you of being arrogant, tell them the truth. What could it hurt?
"People don't think things like 'he never says anything to me, I bet he's just really shy, so I'm going to go out of my way to get him comfortable'. They are really probably thinking 'wow, he looks cool, I want to get to know him...why isn't he being responsive, what's wrong with me? whats wrong with him? ugh he's a dick'."
Likely 100% correct. Very well put!
"You really just have to force a genuine smile."
Well, if you have to FORCE it, how can it be genuine? I however do really wish that I COULD smile better. I just don't know how. Can you teach me?
As in it looks genuine! You know, grin really big and show some pearly whites. Also maintain eye contact and wrinkle your eyes. A smile is the biggest icebreaker ever. Don't forget to stand up straight, as this makes you feel a little more confident and in control, while giving the utter illusion of confidence. Compliment people here and there. Ya know, little things.
Is it normal to be so shy and insecure people think you´re arrogant?
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Yeah, it is normal; it's just the way you come off. People don't think things like 'he never says anything to me, I bet he's just really shy, so I'm going to go out of my way to get him comfortable'. They are really probably thinking 'wow, he looks cool, I want to get to know him...why isn't he being responsive, what's wrong with me? whats wrong with him? ugh he's a dick'.
You really just have to force a genuine smile.
If someone accuses you of being arrogant, tell them the truth. What could it hurt?
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"People don't think things like 'he never says anything to me, I bet he's just really shy, so I'm going to go out of my way to get him comfortable'. They are really probably thinking 'wow, he looks cool, I want to get to know him...why isn't he being responsive, what's wrong with me? whats wrong with him? ugh he's a dick'."
Likely 100% correct. Very well put!
"You really just have to force a genuine smile."
Well, if you have to FORCE it, how can it be genuine? I however do really wish that I COULD smile better. I just don't know how. Can you teach me?
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As in it looks genuine! You know, grin really big and show some pearly whites. Also maintain eye contact and wrinkle your eyes. A smile is the biggest icebreaker ever. Don't forget to stand up straight, as this makes you feel a little more confident and in control, while giving the utter illusion of confidence. Compliment people here and there. Ya know, little things.