Just being gay is not going to guarantee they are better parents. However it does seem slightly hypocritical if your parents were truly that awful. Some people believe that children need a strong father figure and a female figure to raise a child properly. That having two men that are girlish raise a boy or girl will be negative for them in the long run. I don’t think it matters as we need someone to adopt children and a lot of straight people prefer having kids. So if you cant have one I think you would be more likely to adopt. Orphans and foster children deserve to have parents.
"That having two men that are girlish raise a boy or girl will be negative for them in the long run."
1) Um. Gay men aren't "girlish". There are gay men on various parts of the gender spectrum. Some are feminine, some aren't. But there's no reason to expect a man to be "girlish" just because he's gay.
2) Why would that be negative for them in the long run?
3) Adoption is not the only option available for gay couples to have children.
I never said that was my view. I have already said I do not care. Some people do believe this. By girlish I meant feminine and that is how some people see it.
They believe you need balance and if you do not have a motherly and a fatherly figure it is not going to work. Which makes sense to a degree but I do not think they should stop them from adopting. Since most straight people CAN have kids and usually will have their own children.
I personally would love to adopt if I chose to have kids. I do not believe it would be wise as I do not make enough to afford them. This belief was also presented when they tried to assure that gay couples could not adopt. So if you read up on this you will see.
Which no not all gay men are girly obviously. I never said I believed that either. However gay men have a reputation for being like that. Women have an image of being well butch. However you can also see relationships with one very masculine character and one very feminine one.
So nothing is really that simple but this is the argument. Be it girl x girl or boy x boy. I would think it would be very helpful since these kids are unwanted and these people can not have children from each other. So I think we should encourage this not discourage it.
I have said I believe gay couples should have a right to adopt in another comment as well. So I do not think it really matters. These children have no one. Who are we to say well you seem like good candidates but oops your gay never mind. Like that is productive at all?
Is it normal to be so infuriated and sad over this?
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Just being gay is not going to guarantee they are better parents. However it does seem slightly hypocritical if your parents were truly that awful. Some people believe that children need a strong father figure and a female figure to raise a child properly. That having two men that are girlish raise a boy or girl will be negative for them in the long run. I don’t think it matters as we need someone to adopt children and a lot of straight people prefer having kids. So if you cant have one I think you would be more likely to adopt. Orphans and foster children deserve to have parents.
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"That having two men that are girlish raise a boy or girl will be negative for them in the long run."
1) Um. Gay men aren't "girlish". There are gay men on various parts of the gender spectrum. Some are feminine, some aren't. But there's no reason to expect a man to be "girlish" just because he's gay.
2) Why would that be negative for them in the long run?
3) Adoption is not the only option available for gay couples to have children.
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I never said that was my view. I have already said I do not care. Some people do believe this. By girlish I meant feminine and that is how some people see it.
They believe you need balance and if you do not have a motherly and a fatherly figure it is not going to work. Which makes sense to a degree but I do not think they should stop them from adopting. Since most straight people CAN have kids and usually will have their own children.
I personally would love to adopt if I chose to have kids. I do not believe it would be wise as I do not make enough to afford them. This belief was also presented when they tried to assure that gay couples could not adopt. So if you read up on this you will see.
Which no not all gay men are girly obviously. I never said I believed that either. However gay men have a reputation for being like that. Women have an image of being well butch. However you can also see relationships with one very masculine character and one very feminine one.
So nothing is really that simple but this is the argument. Be it girl x girl or boy x boy. I would think it would be very helpful since these kids are unwanted and these people can not have children from each other. So I think we should encourage this not discourage it.
I have said I believe gay couples should have a right to adopt in another comment as well. So I do not think it really matters. These children have no one. Who are we to say well you seem like good candidates but oops your gay never mind. Like that is productive at all?