Is it normal to be so hurt by this comment?

Of course there are accidents. Perhaps not in the example you provided but what about in the case of someone hitting a patch of ice and losing control?

The word accident literally means "without intent." even in the example you gave your husband, the intent wasn't to hit the car in front of them....therefore accident.

I don't really know your intelligence level based on this question. The fact that he tells you you're smart is odd though. It almost sounds like he was placating you and got tired of it.

Either way he's your husband...you're stuck with him...get over it.

Put him in the trunk of your car and back it into a tree.

Then claim it was "an accident"

Dappled, that is NOT hat the word means. Sure, if you want to just hang he meaning to suit your argument, then yeah...there's no accidents. But of you are not a moron and argue honestly, you have to admit you're wrong.

Abbeyroad is right it means an unintentional act. Lots of things happen without intent. Knocking over a glass of milk, tripping on something, losing something. Sure you can argue cause....but you CAN'T argue intent....unless you're stupid. Which is probably where the husband was coming from.

Maybe someone close he knows or he has had accidents they didn't mean to do. Maybe you hurt his feelings and he lashed back because of it. Doesn't make it right in any way but you should talk to him about it.

no, ur triggered asf kys pls

It's normal to feel hurt by something like that, I don't think your husband should have said that. But I disagree with what you said about accidents.

I actually agree with you. If a person isn't paying attention to the road, it's their fault.

i think there are such things as accidents.As you said earlier about the tailgating and texting i think the process of events are cause and effect with the cause being they chose to text and drive and the effect being they crashed but trust me i highly doubt they are thinking hey i'm gonna intentionally crash my frikkin car into this guys car so that i will have to pay hundreds of dollars to fix my car and possibly get sue,what im saying is that them crashing was an accident but their stupidity caused this. understand?? accidents are because of stupid people. and i think you and your husband are wrong. he's wrong for what he said because you have to have an open mind and not automatically criticize what people say and judged them based on opinions but your theory of accidents isn't exactly valid but i do not call you names for it

Its not like he said "shut the fuck up you stupid bitch" he just said you're stupid because saying that there is no such thing as an accident is a stupid thing to say are you telling me you've never accidentally broke a dish or knocked a glass over or spilled a drink he was right to say you're stupid it hurts your feelings because you're sensitive but come on really think about it that was a stupid comment

I think there are more respectful ways for your husband to tell you he doesn't agree with your opinon. So no, I do not think that was a normal response.
Is your thinking normal. Yes. I just think you were not able to articulate what you were trying to say very well. There are "accidents" all the time, we can all look up the definition. I think you were trying to say that people need to take more responsibility for their actions. You were questionning the legitimacy of calling something an accident (even if there was a lack of intent for the intended outcome) when there were things the person could have done or could have stopped doing to prevent it. I think you were talking more about liability. Another example of an "accident" - unplanned pregnancy.

Accidents DO happen. By definition, I believe it means something happened unintentionally.

I have a cousin of mine who was an "accident" child. They didn't plan on him but he happened anyways. He doesn't know and he's probably too young to understand... but if he finds out he'd probably be pretty pissed off.

But yeah, accident probably meant a lot more to him than it does to you. He may have done something accidently that has scarred him which made him react harshly. Yes, it is normal for you to be hurt by this comment as he's never said anything like this to hurt you before - but I'm sorry, I simply don't blame him to.

He could've said something much worst than that but I understand Ur sensitive. If it hurt/bothered U so much, I suggest U sit down with him & talk to him about how that comment made U feel. It's not gonna be resolved or cleared up if U don't talk to him. It for sure is not gonna make U feel any better, talk to him.

sounds like an ass

Actually, I'm with you on this OP, no matter what you were talking about, he has no right to call you a name.

I mean if he wished to put his view forward, he could have done so in a mature manner whilst being polite.

Let him know he's hurt you and if he doesn't give a crap, leave. You deserve someone who cares and won't call you a name just because you express your own view, which you have every right to do.

Btw, I agree with you, it's not really an accident if they were at fault, intent or no intent.

the comment sounds a bit like childish frustration. maybe explain it hurt your feelings, some people get hurt easily and others can let it roll off. its probly an old habit or he hates being wrong. continue being kind

Being pedantic about it, I agree with you. There is no such thing as an accident. The word "accident" just means we either don't know the explanation, don't have words for it, or don't want to face up to the actuality.

However, this isn't really the issue. You need to explain to him how his words made you feel.