I think you need to strike a balance. I've been out with girls who completely ignored me for days, even weeks. I suspect it was a game to keep me keen. It didn't work. I lost interest in them because it seemed like they had no interest in me. When someone lets you know that they're thinking about you now and again, and that they'd like some attention from you, it's nice. It usually makes me react in the right way and want to give them some attention. It deepens the bond. You know they care.
I think you might be overdoing it, though. And you run the risk of suffocating him and him wanting more and more time away from you. It's just a theory but I'm wondering if you're suffering with your self-esteem and, now you're in a relationship, you're treating the "relationship" as self-worth. When you're not in contact with him, something seems missing, or maybe you feel yourself to be less somehow. It's difficult to get a picture via words on a page, but you sound like a nice girl. You come across that way. You have to realise that you're valuable too, as an individual. That you're bringing your own qualities to the relationship, rather than the relationship is giving you qualities you didn't previously have.
I also think you're going to take your first relationship break-up very hard indeed. For the sake of this relationship, you have to back off a bit and see what level of contact is a good compromise between what you want and what he wants. Also, talk to him about it. Maybe make a joke of how much you contact him and see how he reacts.
Good luck, by the way. I hope everything works out the way you want it too.
IIN to be so clingy with my boyfriend?
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I think you need to strike a balance. I've been out with girls who completely ignored me for days, even weeks. I suspect it was a game to keep me keen. It didn't work. I lost interest in them because it seemed like they had no interest in me. When someone lets you know that they're thinking about you now and again, and that they'd like some attention from you, it's nice. It usually makes me react in the right way and want to give them some attention. It deepens the bond. You know they care.
I think you might be overdoing it, though. And you run the risk of suffocating him and him wanting more and more time away from you. It's just a theory but I'm wondering if you're suffering with your self-esteem and, now you're in a relationship, you're treating the "relationship" as self-worth. When you're not in contact with him, something seems missing, or maybe you feel yourself to be less somehow. It's difficult to get a picture via words on a page, but you sound like a nice girl. You come across that way. You have to realise that you're valuable too, as an individual. That you're bringing your own qualities to the relationship, rather than the relationship is giving you qualities you didn't previously have.
I also think you're going to take your first relationship break-up very hard indeed. For the sake of this relationship, you have to back off a bit and see what level of contact is a good compromise between what you want and what he wants. Also, talk to him about it. Maybe make a joke of how much you contact him and see how he reacts.
Good luck, by the way. I hope everything works out the way you want it too.