Is it normal to be sexually conufused and married to a woman?

i was also married to a girl, and i stayed there becuase that was the choice a made, to live in the closet . i got divorced because my wife cheated on me and when that happen i dicided to go to a gay night club but before i did this i opened my self to a gay friend, there i meet my partner and we having toguether for the pass 5 years and i'm very happy i didnt want to make the same mistake again my family supports me and i think the same will happened to you be hones first to your self and then to other they are not leaving your life you are. in this case i think you have to be very selfish think about you first.

When you got married you should have had that figured out by then, since marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment. You need to tell your wife, you're doing an injustice to her by living a lie.
I would recommend since you haven't been married very long that you really should have this marriage annulled and figure out who you are and what you want to do.

It's normal, yes, but "normal" doesn't necessarily make it right. I mean, with the bigoted culture we live in, many sexually repressed men feel the same way you do. They are told from a young age that their desires are wrong and so they suppress them and pretend to be "normal" aka straight (being gay is totally normal to by the way but not in the eyes of bigots). These men internalize society's messages of homophobia, and some even become homophobic themselves - aggressively hating on openly gay people, who remind them of their true natures.
I understand your situation and I empathize with it. It must be very confusing, and you probably feel very guilt-ridden. But I also empathize with your wife. If there's one thing in the universe that I hate more than anything else, it's being lied to. I think the ethical thing to do would be to be honest with your wife, but this will most-likely hurt her feelings, at least at first, until she gets over it (but you never know! she could have already known you were gay and she could be a closet lesbian herself!) If you still love her as a friend, and if you have a sensitive temperament, this could be difficult for you - it *could* ruin your relationship with her, but I'm sure its better than living a lie? It's a difficult situation, and no matter what anyone else says, it's a decision you have to make for yourself. I wish both you and your wife the best of luck.

A dream-fake? is your question as fake as this word?

Sexuality is not who sleep with or marry its who youre attracted to and who you fall in love with ultimatly. You these feelings and if youre confused it probly means you are bi anyway, people usually just know there sexuality if their attracted to one sex by the time their 28. and if you are, tell your wife.

If you were sexually confused why did you get married in the first place?? You need to let your wife knkw because as the others said earlier your not being fair to her and your holding her back from true happiness. Dont make her waste her life away because you dont know what you want. Thats selfishness

sorry you've gotta go through this. wish I had some words of encouragement for you :-/

How old are you? You sound like you're just trying to figure out life...I am constantly questioning myself (I'm not done with college yet) and trying to figure out wtf I am doing. As for the same sex attraction..I personally don't know what its like to feel that way towards them (I'm a girl) but it definitely sounds like you need to explore your feelins more...imo, I agree with Angel, don't lead your wife on if you don't think you're going to put your all into it..its not fair to her, and not fair to you. I think in life, you need to be happy and comfortable..and you need to be yourself.

Does your wife know this?

I mean if she's going to be your beard she deserves to know.

Otherwise you're holding her back from being with someone who can completely love her.

youre a total asswhole!!!! EEEERRRRR you don't lie to a woman about marriage and pretend to be into her. why cant you just be GAY like every open man there is. You're worst than other man that cheat because youre putting yourself first than giving your wife the right to know. Stop living a lie and stop hurting those you say you love.you piss me off!!