Is it normal to be selfish in bed?

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When I was with my ex, I used to love exploring him, hearing him enjoying himself, which turned me on, and we'd spend about 50/50 time exploring each other. And he'd always spend quite alot of time kissing me before touching me anywhere.

Since we ended, I've had a few flings, where the guys have started caressing me (sometimes 1 kiss), then put their hands down there (nothing more). After I'd come, they'd put my hand where they wanted it, or tell me what they wanted, but I could never bring myself to put my hands down there or go through with it, and I'd make excuses.

And then I think, well I've got what I want, can't you go now?

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  • Comm0nSense
    13 years ago | pl

    maybe you're just a b1tch

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  • bazwell
    13 years ago | pl

    Is it normal? I'ld say yes. Is it fair, I'd say no. During sex, if both parties are not communicating about their needs and expectations and willing to fulfull this, then the sex will ultimately be unfulfilling for someone. The danger here is that sexual frustration in one partner can cause an undesirable situation for the other. I'm talking about anything as little as resentment, irritation, anger, feelings of inferiority to violence, rape, the end of the relationship etc.
    If you do not want to be in a sexual relationship with a person who you are prepared to give as much pleasure as they give to you, then don't be in the sexual relationship at all.

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  • Hooviva
    12 years ago | pl

    Normal. Pretty normal. Being selfish in bed won't do any harm. Just because you talk about egotism in bed it doesn't make you a bitch. Selfishness is neither normal nor weird, but you do realise that the unselfish are altruist and they wouldn't agree with you :|. However, all works out in your bed :).

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  • sucka-free
    13 years ago | pl

    I'm the same way but I'm a male

    Once I blow my load I am finished.

    She can either make me a sandwich or get of the way so I can make one.

    My exes all figured out that they'd better orgasm first because once I did, I was done.

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  • mybuttholesmellsofshit
    13 years ago | pl

    yea... your what is known as a slut. have fun with the hpv ya hood rat.

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  • RawRiTzSooie
    13 years ago | pl

    i thought i was the only who felt like that! i dun have a answer to your problem but i feel awkward when my exes wanted something back and i didnt know what to do. my exes looked like they knew what they were doing.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Maybe you are not quite ready or have not met someone you feel all that into, other than just sexually for yourself in a bit of a selfish way.

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