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I'm light skinned, and I have freckles. My labia seems to be a brown color and I am self conscious about it. It's not too dark, my clitoris is pink. I've only had sex with one guy but we were each other's first and I feel like what he thought doesn't count. Are you a guy? Do you care? Is it normal?
Man, what has a steady stream of internet porn done to people? Don't we already have to worry enough about every other aspect of beauty from the tips of our hair to our pedicured toenails without having to feel self-conscious about the part of us that any man privileged enough to see it will almost undoubtedly love? :(
YES. Your genitalia are normal colors unless they are blue, green or something else not found in human skin tones. Labia come in everything from dark maroon-black to pale pink, and they are all good colors from the point of view of anyone who loves you enough to be allowed close enough to see them.
They'll even change colors, so there's no "wrong" color for them to be. When you're excited, when you're pregnant, when you get older, when you're mid-cycle, when you're ovulating -- all those things make you look different.
There's no such thing as "too dark." There is also no "too pink," "too pale," "too flat," "too fat," "too lippy" or "not lippy enough." Unless you have labia long enough to cause chafing while wearing jeans or something, however you're shaped and colored is totally fine. Any partner close enough to it to note its physical characteristics will be delighted with it -- and if he isn't, he can piss right off.
I'm very white but my "lips" down there are brownish too. It's normal for colors to vary, and it's normal to be self conscious about it. This may come as a surprise, but many porn stars actually bleach the skin around their anus and vagina to make it look more like the rest of their skin. This, in turn, makes a lot of guys think that coloring is natural for women, which makes women worry that men will think they are weird. But don't worry. Any nice guy won't judge you for it. He'll just be happy he gets to see you there.