Is it normal to be scared or worried that i won't satisfy her?

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The girl of my dreams is currently in a relationship but we talk all the time still. We have a past and have dated before. It was long distance but I can still say she was my first true love. Anyway, she had sex for the first time this week and thought it was appropriate to tell me. Of course this didn't make me happy, but anyways we talked and emotions flew but one of my primary concerns was if he was bigger than me. And I bet you guys and gals can see where this is going...He was. He was 7 or 8 inches and I'm an average 5 or 5.5 inches on a good day. I am now extremely worried and scared that I will never satisfy her. If I am able to get out where she is, which is 10/11 hours away from me, we are definitely going to have sex but I know that I'm not gonna be as big as her boyfriend was. And I'm fucking TERRIFIED that she's gonna say something like, "Is it in yet?" Or, "Is that it?" I really really feel like a loser and just a piece of shit because I love her so much and if I can't satisfy her, I don't know what I'd do. Is this normal? And please comment if you've had similar experiences, what you did to cope/solve them, and any and all advice you can give me. Thank you all so much. Please no rude or smart ass remarks or comments. Thanks again.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago | pl

    It's not the size of the tool, but the skill of the craftsman.

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  • Blade884
    8 years ago | pl

    No matter what size you have, there is worry about it one way or another. I had a college friend with a very large one, and he had serious girlfriend, but she was complaining about it hitting her cervix or something inside. It woudld be painful for her, and she ended up going to DR for it. This is prob extreme example, but I mention this because he was so worried about it. he was afraid she would break up with him because of this.

    MY point is, us men have to stop with the worry about sizes, etc. If you love the person, she will love you for your small penis, large nose, bald head, etc. It won't matter.

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  • horsestallion69
    8 years ago | pl

    if you really do wish to please her, have her on top having her way with you, kiss and caress her beautiful breast, and if you want really good sex, give her oral, she will love you for anything.

    horse stallion69

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  • fluffylove78
    8 years ago | pl

    you've heard it said a lot, but honestly, you've gotta be confident. confidence goes a long way in the sex game. some guys are better endowed then others, however, it's not just about size. you've gotta be skillful in what you are doing. anyone can thrust, but it's first about your foreplay game and second about how you use what you have. a good rule of thumb i always use before intercourse is to make her orgasm at least twice from oral and finger stimulation/penetration. you've gotta get her worked up and going, and pleasuring her multiple times before she even sees your dick lets her know you're not just in it to get your rocks off without meeting her needs. besides, there's nothing hotter in my opinion then going down on a woman while also using your fingers for penetration (depending on the woman you could also use a finger in her anus at the same time as well; some women who I have been with were initially not interested but after letting me try it they found it very stimulating, leading to squirting). hopefully this has been somewhat helpful for you, and as alone as you may feel in the equipment area, there are many men who exaggerate their size. just because you have 7 or 8, doesn't mean you're a good lover.

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  • charli.m
    8 years ago | pl

    She's in a relationship...

    ...but youre definitely going to have sex?

    :/

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    • Canoli_Fool69
      8 years ago | pl

      She won't be in a relationship forever (hopefully not) and she says she wants me more than anybody. Sorry I didn't clarify that.

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      • Gspyder
        8 years ago | pl

        If she really wanted to be with you, wouldn't she be already?

        I recognize the situation, you're being played. She likes the attention from you and that you are "hers," but doesn't actually want to date you. Sorry to be so blunt, but I've seen several friends go through that, been told the same thing. Personally I'd recommend refocusing your attention toward girls that are actually available.

        On to the size thing, you're average. Average guys can please a girl. It's just a stupid societal standard that guys are held to which doesn't actually matter. Like girls and breast/waist sizes.

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        • Canoli_Fool69
          8 years ago | pl

          You were right man. She was playing me. I finally got her out of my life. It wasn't worth the stress and drama.

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          • Gspyder
            8 years ago | pl

            Good for you!! Proud of you man, it's worth it to have someone who really does put you before other guys

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  • Murun
    8 years ago | pl

    You have an advantage at 5".. Your pubic bone on her clit! Big men can't do that as they 'bottom out' on the cervix first.

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  • ginsters101
    8 years ago | pl

    if you can get to her, then spend an age pleasuring her clit and cunt with your tongue, I mean an age, tease her arse with your fingertips, bring her to multiple orgasms before you get anywhere near sliding your cock inside her. When you do finally fuck her she should be more than ready to finish and won't notice that you shoot your load inside of thirty seconds.

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