Personally I don't like the idea of an open casket funeral. We don't have much of a tradition here in England of that. I would much rather remember my relative alive and kicking, the happy memories of spending time with them, than have the haunting image of their dead, still body covered in make-up lying in a box as the last time I see them (forgive me for being crude).
If you feel like you NEED to say goodbye or pay your respects, then do it. It might be an important part of the grieving process. If you feel like actually you don't need to and you can honour the memory of your Grandfather without going, then don't go.
Also, I don't think your mother should pressure you into making a decision that isn't right for you. Even if it would mean a lot to her, it has to mean a lot to YOU.
Is it normal to be scared of going to a chapel of rest / funeral
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It's up to you.
Personally I don't like the idea of an open casket funeral. We don't have much of a tradition here in England of that. I would much rather remember my relative alive and kicking, the happy memories of spending time with them, than have the haunting image of their dead, still body covered in make-up lying in a box as the last time I see them (forgive me for being crude).
If you feel like you NEED to say goodbye or pay your respects, then do it. It might be an important part of the grieving process. If you feel like actually you don't need to and you can honour the memory of your Grandfather without going, then don't go.
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Also, I don't think your mother should pressure you into making a decision that isn't right for you. Even if it would mean a lot to her, it has to mean a lot to YOU.
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My mums not pressuring me at all , she's perfect I just want to make her happy