Is it normal to be scared of being bisexual?

Alright, I'm a "bi curious" girl in highschool who has dated guys but not any girls. I've kissed a couple of girls before and even hooked up with one girl in particular but ended up keeping our little "relationship" a secret. Non of my friends know I'm curious and if I tell them I'm bi, no one at my high school would want to even be friends with me anymore. It's my senior year and I want to keep all my friends to have a good last year. I was wondering if these feelings are normal for bisexual girls and should I wait till I'm in college to come out as bisexual?

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  • I can tell you right now, it's all hormones. However, some people do like to roll on that side of the grass. If you really do want to come out as a bisexual really badly, so you can get it off your chest or whatever. Then just tell people, if those people are truly your friends, then they should understand. If not, you don't need those types of friends anyway. I'm not sure if some of you're friends are homophobic or uneasy with bi's and gays, but if they are, try to explain you're not the type to hit on them, and potentially cause an awkward scene. It all really depends on your culture. In this case, it's hard to determine if it's normal, alot of people become bi curious or gay in college and highschool, and end up being straight somewhere for the rest of there life. Personally, I would consider this just a phase in your life (if you wanna call it normal).

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  • Its a phase so dont think much about it...

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  • Bi is probably the most hated sexuality in girls too because people accuse us of being sluts or doing it to get guys to like us some people don't even believe it really exists but if you are you need friends who will love you anyway or there not real friends at all.

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  • its okay to tell ur friends if they stop talking to u forget them because they dnt like u for who u are so find new ones to like who u r no matter if u gay bi or straight

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  • ok girlie. dont necessarily listen to the people who say its a phase. i recently accepted my being bi (im a girl btw) and im still scared as heck. i have told a few very close friends, four to be exact. two of whom were bi guys, but the other two were straight girls. when i told my BEST friend, who is one of the girls, i was scared sh!tless. and yet, when i told her, it felt amazing to get that off my back. funny thing was, she said she had sorta known... but she took it very well and nothing has changed between us. do you not have one friend who you think you could tell? the advice i have for you is be careful who you tell, but if you have someone you want to tell, go for it.if they are truly your friends, they will not care! =)

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  • Shucks.... just watch a movie at home together.

    Giggle and tickle each other.

    Maybe kiss but keep it simple.

    Experience the most minor aspect of what, for many, turns out to be merely a fad, a trend, shoved into you by outside influences.

    "Hollywood" is really pushing hard via various media to promulgate "non-normal" human dalliances.

    I use "non-normal" since it IS a small minority who are actually "gay."

    Why force what OTHERS desire you do??!!!!!

    Acceptance/tolerance does not also mean adhering to what is being pushed by others!!!!

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  • i get where you are coming from. im gay, a few people know and im still trying to be able to tell some friends let alone my parents. but thiss is what i have learned. your friends are your friends no matter who or what you are. if you tell them, then if they are your true friends, nothing between you and them will change. hope it helps

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  • I wouldn't worry so much about labeling yourself. Unless it really bothers you to keep that part of yourself a 'secret' I'd say just go ahead and live your life, date who you click with regardless of gender and see where it goes. I don't think being bisexual is necessarily a 'coming out' experience--than again if that's what you personally need to feel happy or whole then you'll know as soon as you decide what you're officially going to tell people.

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