Oh my god :( I’m so so so so so so so so sorry for what you’re going through. I wish and pray that you’re okay now and maybe you’ve even found someone else, someone who will really *love* you.
You’re being hurt darling. Please, please see that. How would you react if I told you some husband threatened to leave his wife if she didn’t agree to having abusive sex with him? YES! This IS abusive. You hardly gave consent. Your husband knows he’s hurting you, really really hurting you, not in a BDSM sort of way, in a real and awful way. And he won’t stop. He sees this pains and tells you to get over it! I don’t know if I should cry or be angry. This is so unfair to you, I’m so sorry :(
He doesn’t love you darling. I can see you’re amazing and caring and kind, but he doesn’t love you. I’m so sorry if you believe he does but he doesn’t. No one who loves someone else treats them like that.
He’s literally torturing you for his own pleasure, so you understand that? You zone out while it’s happening, and that sounds like mild dissociation. You’re body and mind are separating for the time he hurts you. It happens to people during trauma and times of intense emotional or physical pain. You’re being hurt darling! I wish I could hug you. I promise there are kind caring people in this world, and you are one of the best, for putting yourself through all of this because you love him. But he doesn’t love you back. Find someone who does.
LEAVE! Please leave. There are people out there that will love you and adore you and treat you with the kindness and care you deserve, and it’s not in this monster you’re with. There’s a man out there who’ll love you with everything he is, find him! And even if you can’t right away, or not at all, life is MUCH better off without someone who hurts you like this. Go be with your family, and if you don’t have a job, find one to support yourself while you figure things out. You can move into an apartment if there’s no one you know around. But staying will only hurt you. You’re allowing someone who knows how much real pain he’s putting you in to keep hurting you. Any life away from him will be better, if you’re alone or not.
I know it may be hard to believe, because you must love him so much to stay while this abuse has been going on, but how much can someone love you if they treat you like that? He doesn’t love you. He’s threatened to end the relationship if he doesn’t get to abuse you. How is that love? IT ISNT! Oh my god please leave!
Please, please, if you ever get a chance to see this, LEAVE! If you’re still with him, all I can do is hope you have the courage to find yourself a safe place away from him. If you’re still with him, ask yourself if this is how someone who loves someone treats them? Ask yourself that right now, with your hand over your heart. Take a deep breath, and answer it. I’m sure you’ll feel the answer. And I want you to do what you would want someone else to do in this situation.
I hope just me saying these words can somehow make them happen if they haven’t already yet. Even if you don’t read this I hope you’re okay. You’re beautiful :)
You’re a beautiful human being who deserves sooooo much love. You need to show yourself love too, and you can only do that if you allow yourself distance from whoever it is that hurting you.
I wrote this reply in the hopes that if you’re still with him, you see this and realize how much you are worth, and leave him. And if you have already, I’m sure you realize how much of life you were missing out on, and how much was taken away from you by him. I’m so so so so so so sorry for all that pain you have gone through. I’m just another person who you’ll never meet in the world, but I do care for you. And I hope you learn to care for yourself too.
You deserve all the love in this world, so show yourself love too. Please take care of yourself and reply if you ever get a chance to read this. Take care please, you’re beautiful :)
Is it normal to be scared of BDSM?
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Oh my god :( I’m so so so so so so so so sorry for what you’re going through. I wish and pray that you’re okay now and maybe you’ve even found someone else, someone who will really *love* you.
You’re being hurt darling. Please, please see that. How would you react if I told you some husband threatened to leave his wife if she didn’t agree to having abusive sex with him? YES! This IS abusive. You hardly gave consent. Your husband knows he’s hurting you, really really hurting you, not in a BDSM sort of way, in a real and awful way. And he won’t stop. He sees this pains and tells you to get over it! I don’t know if I should cry or be angry. This is so unfair to you, I’m so sorry :(
He doesn’t love you darling. I can see you’re amazing and caring and kind, but he doesn’t love you. I’m so sorry if you believe he does but he doesn’t. No one who loves someone else treats them like that.
He’s literally torturing you for his own pleasure, so you understand that? You zone out while it’s happening, and that sounds like mild dissociation. You’re body and mind are separating for the time he hurts you. It happens to people during trauma and times of intense emotional or physical pain. You’re being hurt darling! I wish I could hug you. I promise there are kind caring people in this world, and you are one of the best, for putting yourself through all of this because you love him. But he doesn’t love you back. Find someone who does.
LEAVE! Please leave. There are people out there that will love you and adore you and treat you with the kindness and care you deserve, and it’s not in this monster you’re with. There’s a man out there who’ll love you with everything he is, find him! And even if you can’t right away, or not at all, life is MUCH better off without someone who hurts you like this. Go be with your family, and if you don’t have a job, find one to support yourself while you figure things out. You can move into an apartment if there’s no one you know around. But staying will only hurt you. You’re allowing someone who knows how much real pain he’s putting you in to keep hurting you. Any life away from him will be better, if you’re alone or not.
I know it may be hard to believe, because you must love him so much to stay while this abuse has been going on, but how much can someone love you if they treat you like that? He doesn’t love you. He’s threatened to end the relationship if he doesn’t get to abuse you. How is that love? IT ISNT! Oh my god please leave!
Please, please, if you ever get a chance to see this, LEAVE! If you’re still with him, all I can do is hope you have the courage to find yourself a safe place away from him. If you’re still with him, ask yourself if this is how someone who loves someone treats them? Ask yourself that right now, with your hand over your heart. Take a deep breath, and answer it. I’m sure you’ll feel the answer. And I want you to do what you would want someone else to do in this situation.
I hope just me saying these words can somehow make them happen if they haven’t already yet. Even if you don’t read this I hope you’re okay. You’re beautiful :)
You’re a beautiful human being who deserves sooooo much love. You need to show yourself love too, and you can only do that if you allow yourself distance from whoever it is that hurting you.
I wrote this reply in the hopes that if you’re still with him, you see this and realize how much you are worth, and leave him. And if you have already, I’m sure you realize how much of life you were missing out on, and how much was taken away from you by him. I’m so so so so so so sorry for all that pain you have gone through. I’m just another person who you’ll never meet in the world, but I do care for you. And I hope you learn to care for yourself too.
You deserve all the love in this world, so show yourself love too. Please take care of yourself and reply if you ever get a chance to read this. Take care please, you’re beautiful :)