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Is it normal for me to be sad annoyed and almost mad at my bf for not talking to me while he's visiting with his family? His family lives forever away, and he never gets to see them, but he never talks to me, even when he's not doing anything... He means the world to me and I get really pissed and jealous cuz he doesn't talk to me... Is this normal?
Depends. If you have travelled with him to see them and he ignores you while you're there, that's a bit harsh.
If he's travelling away and doesn't call you, that may be
Are you asking this because...
...He should call you simply because you have no life, so you've got someone to talk to? If so, grow up. Get a hobby. Not normal.
...He should be making you feel as though you're the centre of the universe, and he's rather inconsiderately doing things that don't involve you? You're a woman. This is normal - but will get you deservedly dumped. Grow up.
...he should spend every waking moment entertaining you, because boys are like puppies that are there to play with you when you want, and you deserve to be treated like the princess you are? I think you know my advice in this instance.
Is his conduct is unfair because...
...you've told him how this makes you feel,
...he's aware that he does it and
...there's no reason for it - no family cancer, argument or whatever distracting him
then don't put up with it.
So why does he do it?
...there's a cultural reason - his family treats all women like crap and he's playing his part when he's around them
...he has no idea he's doing it
...he's not actually doing anything wrong but you're being overly demanding and precious, imagining a slight that isn't happening
...he's using you for sex or entertainment when there's nothing else to do, so ignores you when you're surplus to requirements
...he thinks a mature relationship doesn't need constant small-talk, and thinks companionable silence is fine, like most sane people
...his family bitches about you and e's annoyed by it, but gets over it when they're not around
...someone in his family doesn't like you and he's being a wuss by showing distance from you, to keep their approval (too much of a wuss to dump you though)
...you don't measure up to his family's expectations or standards and he's uncomfortable around you and them
...he's away visiting and doesn't have a cellphone, and doesn't want to ask to use someone else's phone (doubtful)
...he's away visiting and has a GF in the other town
...it is the Manson family and he's gone quiet because one day he will have to kill you
Who knows, kiddo. Hard to say without any kind of context.
Sounds like you're being whiny but I could be wrong. More info, please.
Wait a second, you get mad because he doesn't talk to you when you're not there?
um...
You said you feel bad that you get frustrated when he goes to his parents' house without you and then doesn't spend the whole time on the phone with you (I guess), so I would imagine that you realize this, but...
You're being unreasonable. And you have no idea what's going on with his fam when you're not there. You don't know what they all did when he was little. Maybe they're playing board games or his mom is reading him books or they're watching television and eating or whatever they all did when he was a little kid. And really, that's all he's doing when he goes to his parents' house without you. He's being a little kid again. If it were my boyfriend, there's nothing that would make me happier than to know that he was with his mom and dad pretending to be a little kid and feeling all that kind of loved and safe and stuff.
And giving him that space to be a little kid will make him better at being a man when he comes back to you.
Well, we make each others worlds, and he knows exactly how I feel.. But he barely gets to spend time with them, and I feel bad that I get frustrated with him... His parents like me and whenever I go with to see his parents he's always by my side making me happy, but when I'm not there he doesn't talk to me much... Maybe he's overwhelmed with being with his family? I know he doesn't have another gf, because he can't lie to me to save his life...