I had the exact same issue as you when I went to school. My hair was long down my back and all real, I talked proper, I excelled in academics, and all the black girls rejected me and said the same things.
Some of those girls approached me years after we got out of school and explained to me why they acted in such a way. Their first misconception was that because I was raised in a middle-class family and made good grades that I was automatically stuck up. They figured I had a superiority complex and would look down on them. They didn't want to befriend me and invite me to hang out because they figured that their entertainment and their households were too low budget for my tastes. Assumptions that were far from the truth.
Some of the girls admitted to having envy for the things that made me different from them. It made them angry just laying eyes on me so of course they wouldn't want to accept me.
Those black girls also had a bond between them created from the similar struggles and obstacles they all faced. I couldn't relate.
I haven't quite solved this issue but what I did was stop caring about trying to fit in or gaining their acceptance. I realized that the people at school were only people at school and that I had an entire future to live. Don't stop making good grades and talking proper. Its a sad truth but what sets you apart from those black girls at school will also give u better opportunities to succeed as a black female. The other black girls are trapped in unfortunate circumstances so you are fortunate to be what you are so be grateful.
Is it normal to be rejected by your own ethnicity in school?
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I had the exact same issue as you when I went to school. My hair was long down my back and all real, I talked proper, I excelled in academics, and all the black girls rejected me and said the same things.
Some of those girls approached me years after we got out of school and explained to me why they acted in such a way. Their first misconception was that because I was raised in a middle-class family and made good grades that I was automatically stuck up. They figured I had a superiority complex and would look down on them. They didn't want to befriend me and invite me to hang out because they figured that their entertainment and their households were too low budget for my tastes. Assumptions that were far from the truth.
Some of the girls admitted to having envy for the things that made me different from them. It made them angry just laying eyes on me so of course they wouldn't want to accept me.
Those black girls also had a bond between them created from the similar struggles and obstacles they all faced. I couldn't relate.
I haven't quite solved this issue but what I did was stop caring about trying to fit in or gaining their acceptance. I realized that the people at school were only people at school and that I had an entire future to live. Don't stop making good grades and talking proper. Its a sad truth but what sets you apart from those black girls at school will also give u better opportunities to succeed as a black female. The other black girls are trapped in unfortunate circumstances so you are fortunate to be what you are so be grateful.