if someone did that for me I'd be really touched, I'm hella anxious around people I don't know well.
Not so with people I'm familiar with though and I call out my mom often because she regularly interrupts me and my dad talking. We're in a conversation and she'll just interject (in the middle of someone else's sentence) with something totally unrelated. and I'll say something like "Um?? We were talking about [xyz], actually. Does what you just said have anything to do with that?? Is it more important than our conversation??? Could you have at least let us even finish our thought or said excuse me!"
It's the worst because I can't do the "keep talking over them" trick since I completely lose my train of thought when she starts talking (ADHD, easily distracted).
Personally if someone's talking and I want to say something (presuming it's either someone I'm comfortable with or needing to say something important), then I'll kind of start with saying some variation of "um", or the first couple words of a thought ("Yeah, I-", "Oh, and-", etc). This lets them know I have something to say, and with most people they'll either stop talking and say "yeah go on?" or they'll finish their thought quickly and ask "and what were you going to say...?".
I guess if they keep talking for a long while even after I've made multiple indications of wanting to speak, I'll either shrug it off or go quiet but look very clearly disgruntled/annoyed.
Is it normal to be really annoyed by people who talk over you?
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if someone did that for me I'd be really touched, I'm hella anxious around people I don't know well.
Not so with people I'm familiar with though and I call out my mom often because she regularly interrupts me and my dad talking. We're in a conversation and she'll just interject (in the middle of someone else's sentence) with something totally unrelated. and I'll say something like "Um?? We were talking about [xyz], actually. Does what you just said have anything to do with that?? Is it more important than our conversation??? Could you have at least let us even finish our thought or said excuse me!"
It's the worst because I can't do the "keep talking over them" trick since I completely lose my train of thought when she starts talking (ADHD, easily distracted).
Personally if someone's talking and I want to say something (presuming it's either someone I'm comfortable with or needing to say something important), then I'll kind of start with saying some variation of "um", or the first couple words of a thought ("Yeah, I-", "Oh, and-", etc). This lets them know I have something to say, and with most people they'll either stop talking and say "yeah go on?" or they'll finish their thought quickly and ask "and what were you going to say...?".
I guess if they keep talking for a long while even after I've made multiple indications of wanting to speak, I'll either shrug it off or go quiet but look very clearly disgruntled/annoyed.