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i have a friend who copies absolutely everything about me. i've told some other friends and they all say i shouldn't be annoyed or that i should just ignore her but i can't?
You know the old saying: "Imitation is the most sincere form of flattery."
People in the public eye spend a lot of time and effort creating looks that others copy. They want to be trend-setters. Why does it bother you that you have a little fan-club? Do you feel you have to be utterly unique among the 7.4 billion people alive today?
If the person is not copying you in a mocking way, then it sounds like she's still trying to figure out who she is. She likes your look or how people respond to you, so she's trying on your persona to see if it fits her.
Since her imitation makes you feel upset, it sounds like you aren't really very secure about the person you are. If you're in your teens, that's understandable. If you're older, then that suggests you're spending far too much time thinking about what others think of you. I'd suggest you try to focus on being who you are and doing things in your own way. If others want to follow the same trail, that's their decision. You can't make them copy you and you can't make them stop. The only thing you can do is choose whether you pay attention to their imitation or just let them be the people they want to be.
It is annoying but given that you can't change her behavior and only your own, there's not much point in being upset about it. You can ignore it, laugh to yourself and/or just feel sorry for her that she feels the need to do this.
If it really is "absolutely everything about you" that she copies, that's seriously creepy: what exactly does she copy?
Yes, I think people in general can't stand that sort of thing, especially women hate being copied. I had a female friend of mine that was copying me, and following me around like a puppy, and after a while it kinda made my skin crawl.
I guess I was lucky though, because the phenomenon did not happen to me til I was in my early 40s, so as annoyed as I was I think I managed not to be a big meanie. Ugh, it was awful.
I had a good guy friend who had the patience of a saint to listen to me bitch. It used to be very hard for me to set boundaries, and if necessary breakup with a friend. What ended up happening was that I asked for space, and basically kept her at arm's length. I did go out for coffee with her, but I had my guy friend come along.
For most of my life I haven't had a lot of friends, but the only times there was a copycat thing going on it was a mutual sign of solidarity between myself and a best friend.